How do i get my mom to understand?

Question

im 13 and my mom is VERY critical about MY body. i have a flat tight stomach but very wide hips. she always says i need to lose the belly fat and i always tell her i'm happy with my body but she always says "i can be happier and more self confident". how do i get her to understand im happy with the way i look.

Answer 1

Remind your mom that you will be happier and more self-confident if she will stop criticizing you every day.  Tell her that you understand her concerns, but you're tired of hearing it and it's past time for her to drop the subject.

If you need reinforcements, get an appointment with your family doctor and take her into the exam room.  Ask your doctor to explain to your mother where your weight and body mass fall in the range of underweight to normal to overweight.  And let him tell her (again) the criticism isn't motivating and it doesn't build confidence.

Your doctor can also tell you whether your hips are wide because that's your bone structure, which means they will always be wide, or whether the upper part of your body is going to catch up and balance your hips.

Good luck, sweetie.  Sometimes we moms are really horrible to our daughters without meaning to be.  Be sure you put this in your diary so when you have a 13-year-old daughter, you don't say the same things to her!  :-)

Answer 2

listen to your mom.

Answer 3

Listen to your mother and try to understand her point of view. Then say "Mom I see what you want me to do and I am so grateful that you care about me. But I really and truly like my body the way it is. When I want to lose weight I will come to you." If she still insists on trying to get you to lose weight try to get your dad to convince her that you like your body the way it is.    

Answer 4

It is very hard I know, but look on the bright side, at least she doesn't say flat out that you are fat, when I was 10 years old one time I had gone to the pool and had come back home and was still in my bathing suit and my mom looked straight at me and said, "Christine you're so fat" and at lest it is also not all of your relatives, because all of my relatives have commented on it but not as mean as my mom and it's not like I was all that fat, I was just a little bit chubby but not as much as they made it sound like, to them it was like I was 500 lbs or something

Answer 5

If your happy then that's all that matters and if she says anything just tell her okay mom I'm working on it just to amuse her. Your self- image should be all that matters.

And I think that your mom shouldn't be so critical