How do i get my son to stay??? i need some help..?

Question

well my son just got a 100% scholarship to a university in another country and he's leaving.. i want him to stay.. he usually goes out to parties and i make him come home early.. he feels that i don't let him do what he wants and says that he's 22 and should be allowed to do what he wants.. truth is i want someone at home at night in case i need something.. now he's going to another country and i can't seem to change his mind.. i already tried guilt- i told him to go and i'll just pray nothing happens to me at night, it made him change his mind for a little while but now he wants to go because he says it's a chance he may never get again.. how can i make him stay here..

Answer 1

You are too dependant on your son. Let him go and take advantage of this wonderful opportunity. If you keep him from going he will resent you and possible hate you later. You have to get a life of your own. We can't keep our children at home forever, they grow up and get married and have kids of their own and we have to accept it. Find a hobby or some friends to spend time with. Or how about a man? Try meeting a nice man at church or online...match.com or yahoo personals. I am very serious that you need something to do with your time so you can let him live his life.  

Answer 2

Get a dog. A mother's job is to prepare her children for life, and if he's gotten a scholorship abroad to further his education, then you did a good job and its done. You did not have that child to stand at your ready in case you need something during the night. Let him go and live his own life. You need to get yourself together, start dating and start acting like a grown adult.  

Answer 3

Oh my God!!! How selfish are you? Your son has a wonderful oppertunity and your trying to take that away from him, I dont belive what I just read! What kind of a Mother trys guilt to hold her child back? You are supposed to encourage growth and independance in your children, grow up and let the poor boy make a life for himself and you do the same....unbeliveable!

I cant even spell right cos this made me so angry!!!

Answer 4

IS THIS A SERIOUS QUESTION!

of course you love your son, but you should want whats best for him, think of his future and how HE wants to live HIS life. He doesn't want to be stuck to his mom till hes 40! When you were his age I'm sure you didn't stick by your dad or mom. Just let it go, everything will be fiiiine. I suggest you find a hobby or a man.

Answer 5

He is an adult and is entitled to have his own life.  I suggest  that YOU get a life rather than making your son the center of your's.  He doesn't have to stay with you, he needs to do what is best for him not make your life fullfilling.  

Answer 6

Stop being self-fish and quit trying to hold your son back. You're the parent and you're suppose to be responsible to care for yourself and not expect your children to care for you. That's a once in a life time opportunity and you're trying to make your son feel guilty for accepting it? No wonder he wants to go to another country to get away from you. I'm appalled that you would do this to your son.

Answer 7

hire a maid..! i don't wonder you are divorced. so selfish of you, i never heard from a mother before like what your reason is..