How do i get my two year old to stop throwing tantrums!?

Question

How do i get my two year old to stop throwing tantrums!?

Answer 1

depends on why they are throwing a tantrum? If its because you denied them access to something they want then ignore it or redirect it but don't give in. If it's to avoid something try adding that into a daily routine so they can become more familiar with it. I know it's easier said than done but the more times a tantrum ends in them getting their way the more tantrums they will throw. Also note " terrible twos" - most two year olds are experimenting with us to see their boundaries. Good Luck

Answer 2

well at a daycare I use to help out at, one of the women actually use to sit on the ground. then the child sat down indian style between her legs.she then would then hold the child until the child was tired of screaming. it worked everytime.

Answer 3

You don't.  They will grow out of it.  Try to keep your patience when they do.  Don't react to them or they will continue.

Answer 4

I'm no expert but I can suggest this from experience:

1. remain calm when he/she throws the tantrum.

2. don't reward the tantrum with giving in to what he/she wants.

3. if you're out somewhere, remove him/her from the situation (the store, etc) even if it inconveniences you.  say if he is demanding a piece of candy at the store.  you leave, even if you have to walk out without your groceries.  

2 year olds are developed enough to learn consequences of actions.  So he/she 'll learn that the tantrum isn't working for them.  

Reward them when they ask for something nicely, or share, or accept the word "no".  Then they learn that behavior is good.

It was not easy for me to do this, it took some time and effort, but I noticed great improvement after some time.  

Good luck!

Answer 5

It's just a part of your child's development. Do not let him/her think that what they're doing is okay. Don't be harsh, just forceful.

Answer 6

You ignore the child until he/she stops.  Obviously he/she wants something from you and wants your attention.  If you don't pay any attention to the tantrum, the child will eventually realize that throwing a tantrum doesn't do any good to get what he or she wants.  Whatever you do, don't give in.  This is exactly what creates the little monsters that people hate to take anywhere like the store or someone else's home.

Answer 7

Where tantrums are concerned, an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. In the short term, tantrums can be prevented by distraction, and by not letting the child get too hungry or too tired before making a snack or a nap available. In the long term, a child needs to know there are better ways of getting what one wants. Talk about a tantrum afterwards, encouraging the child to tell you why s/he went off the deep end and maybe some ideas about what to do next time s/he is feeling that frustrated. A two-year-old will enjoy having choices, so instead of saying, time to get dressed, it works better to say, what do you want to wear today, the yellow shirt or the blue shirt? Instead of saying time for lunch, what do you want to eat today, some fish sticks or a PBJ? If they don't want anything, they will still sometimes accept a blender fruit shake.

Once a tantrum looks like it's about to start, rather than isolating a child, it's good to put them in front of a fish tank. Brightly colored fish swimming through the water are marvelously calming. When they are really out of control, a lukewarm bath can sometimes do the trick. Just be creative and see what works for your child. And remember to discuss it with the child. What shall we do the next time you feel so sad? Sometimes kids come up with the best solutions of all. But if it happens in a store, take the kid and walk out, even if you have to leave the groceries behind. Your embarrassment gives him/her too much of an advantage in that setting, and could result in your caving when you shouldn't.

Answer 8

take the handles off of them.Just kidding.

Just ignore him until he is ready to listen to reason.  it is very hard to do but it works 100% of the time.

Answer 9

Do not negotiate at all you are the boss if he starts one just turn and walk away  they do it for attention do not give it to them or you could throw  glass of water in their face that usually shocks them into stopping I have sene both work on alot of children.

Answer 10

This is a phase toddlers go through.  Ignore the tantrums and they will discontinue.  If you have to put the child in their room with a child gate in their doorway.  Then simply walk away until the child completes the meltdown.

Answer 11

When she starts sit him/her on the naugty step and dont let them off until they have calmed down and said sorry.

As soon as there is another tantrum put them back on the step.

If youre out somewhere just stop everything youre doing whether its walking shopping etc and just stand still not giving them any attention until they stop.

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Answer 12

as hard as it may seem, tell the child that you will be happy to answer the question or need they may have if they talk like a big kid and ignore the tantruming..

it may take a while but the child will gradually see that the tantrums will not work any more

Answer 13

thorw a tantrum urself in front of him..lol j/k You just need to be patient with him through this time in his life

Answer 14

Throw a tantrum yourself so they can see how it looks. Children learn through sight

Answer 15

I work in a nursery and when they fight back or throw a tantrum, I tell them that they need to quiet down and if they did something wrong and you took something away because of it(that is why they might throw a tantrum) then you tell them what they did wrong. try putting him/her in a room without toys and tell them they can come out when they can say sorry or when they calm down.

Answer 16

I would turn on the vacuum cleaner.  i did it, but now my 9 yr old is afraid of the vacuum.  probably just him.

Answer 17

Refuse to negotiate until he stops. When my son was that age and threw tantrums, we put him in his room until he stopped. He learned very quickly that he wouldn't get his own way by throwing tantrums. Now he's six and behaves very well.