How do i get myself out of a painful rut and build up my confidence?

Question

i have had a string of bad jobs that have left me feeling depressed and upset about my position in life. i am trying to change that but i need to build back the confidence i once had. i have even been told things that have made me self concious and i really dont want to be self concious anymore, because i know these things arent true. so how do i get my confidence back and get rid of my sensitivity?

Answer 1

I've realized after a long time that life never contours to our lives and have now learned and excepted some of the unchangeable things in life, but the biggest life changer is your perspective on everything like (the glass is half empty or its half full) and i'm still a little self concious myself, but what other people think or say about you doesn't get you anywhere...Only you get yourself where you want to be....Remember "whether we think we CAN or we think we CAN'T, either way we are right"  So you get to decide what you are....

Answer 2

I think you should look in the mirror everyday and say "I am a wonderful person".

Answer 3

Well this stuff takes time and it depends on you,  how you think, what would work for you.  A therapist could help you with this.

I for example get insecure because I doubt myself, even if other people see me as a good person, I disregard that and fixate on my negative self-image. That's what I need to deal with.  For you, your root of self-consciousness might be something different.  Talking to someone about it though helps you to figure it out and once you know what you are specifically dealing with you can go about changing it.