How do i get over all my fears that something will happen to my baby and just enjoy her?

Question

I'm a first time mom and i know that this is somewhat normal. At first it was horrible I couldn't even sleep i just knew if i did something would happen to her. Well I dealt with my fears of losing her until I hear something on TV then i just get so scared.

I guess I'm asking how should I deal with this? and is this normal?

Answer 1

When my son was born I was scared to death and angry that I could not possibly foam rubber the world.  I figured out pretty early on that yes the world is a scary place, but it doesn't mean you have to hole up in your house, door locked with barbed wire around your property afraid to breathe or look out a window either.  

All you can do is be sure you know where your child is at all times and that when you're in public they are with you and not running around out of sight when they are older and that you teach them about stranger safety.

You have to trust that they will be OK and realize that they will fall and get hurt once in awhile and that it will be OK. I think every parent goes through this. You just don't understand it until you're a parent yourself. :)

Answer 2

Its definitey normal to worry about your daughter and feel like you couldnt live without her.

And its normal to watch those horrible new stories and feel this feeling of "i never want anything like that to happen to my girl"

but you have to get to a point where you know that you are doing a good job as a mommy, and that you are doing all you can possibly do to keep her safe.

And at first- its normal for some women to lose sleep about being scared of something happening to their baby- but I hope you dont do that anymore. 10 months is a little long to still lose sleep over it.

Try and realize that they are only this little for a short while, and you dont want to spend all your time worrying to the point where you look back and feel like youve missed out on happy times or special moments.

I hope Ive helped you.

Good luck-

Answer 3

Please, please just enjoy her.  If you hear something on tv, just turn the tv off.   If you can't do that, ask your doctor about all of your concerns.   Remind yourself something like this:  At this moment in time, she is here, she is healthy, she is perfect, she is happy, and you are happy.   Then take a deep breath and relax.  

We learned in losing our little baby son at three months old (and we never got to take him home from the hospital) that every moment is absolutely precious, so just try to enjoy the many moments.  That's how I got through pregnancy with hope for my son.  I really just loved every minute, even when he kept kicking me in the lungs, and when he was born, to be able to look into his big brown eyes and feel such deep love.    

And please do get life insurance, while she's healthy, just in case!   We never had the option to get our son insurance, because we knew he'd have a life-threatening condition from the 20th week of pregnancy.   Gerber kept sending us stuff, but they would have rejected him.  My parents bought my brothers and I life insurance when we were babies (and my parents could hardly afford it), and all three of us are still here 30+ years later.   So getting life insurance for her doesn't mean something will happen to her.  

Answer 4

I remember worrying about her when she was a newborn. But, at 10 months, I was just loving my daughter, and loving everyday with her. If seeing something on tv or talking about life insurance flips you out, then I would say not normal.

It's normal to worry, and it's normal to think "what if", but constantly thinking/worrying about something awful happening to your daughter is not only un-natural, it's unhealthy. For you, and her. She isn't getting all of her mother, if mommy is constantly living in fear.

You need to figure out what it is exactly that scares you. If it's something like SIDS or drowning, things that you can take steps to prevent, then do those steps. And then get on with your day.

You deal with it by realizing that there is some stuff you can't control, like illness. You realize it, take your minute to flip out, and then get on with your day.

You have a healthy and happy 10 month old daughter. Just enjoy that fact. SAY that fact every time you start to worry.

Answer 5

oh sweetie, you should just think of it like this...your a great mother and you have a healthy baby girl, everything is new and exciting now scary. remember to soak uo as much of her as possible because soon she will be moving out. your baby giry will be fine, just learn everything you can about child safety and stranger danger so you feel in control.

Answer 6

I have been right where you are. But you have to think positive.. for a long time I used to cry when mental disorder commercials came on the tv or if I saw bumper stickers on cars, because I was soo scared my son would have it.

That devil is a liar!

The way I have come to deal with it is thinking positive, and turning the channel because I don't want to be tempted. I pray about it and give it to God. I know my son is fine... and thats how you have to be. Your child is perfectly fine.

Answer 7

It's hard having kids because I don't know if anyone can be prepared for the overwhelming sense of responsibility and worry that you will feel.  My son is a year old and I always ask my husband, "when will I stop worrying about him so much?"  He laughs and says never because I never will.  Somehow though, you have to keep it in perspective so that it doesn't take away your joy of the time you are able to spend with your daughter.

My son got really sick when he was 2 weeks old and our prayers were the ONLY thing that brought him through, so in my experience, the only way I am able to deal with my worry is knowing the the Lord is in control.  That's really the only solution I can tell you...I hope it helps.