How do i get over him?

Question

Ok I'm confused about this. its like I'm stuck in a love triangle. i have been talk in to this guy for over 3 months and he is the man that i have always wanted. hes great to me and my daughter. he kind cute personality is just awesome he has is flaws but nothin that cant be worked on. But I'm still in love with my daughters father. Honestly i don't kno wat to do. my daughters father has never been there. he saw her only once when she was a couple of weeks old. but now he wants to call and say that i love you and all this and he wants to be together. i kno that its not gonna work cause the reason whyi left the first time is because he has a very bad temper and he started hitting on me. i really do love and want to be with him but i know he is Alair. he got some other girl pregnant while we was together and her baby was born 2 weeks before mine. i just need to kno how do i tell him that idont want to be with him. wat do i do. i love the guy that i am with now but i kno i cant be fully happy until i am over my daughters father. please help advice

Answer 1

dont be sympathetic.you know about your EX.go start a new life.

Answer 2

ok

Answer 3

Your daughters father left you. I think you should try moving on with your life and begin a new one . show you daughter dad that you moved on like he did. hope that helps  

Answer 4

You know he should remain in your past.  Be strong & keep him there.  Move forward with your new man.  Only you can keep him in the past, so it must be you who must remain strong.  If it's possible for you to move to another town or state consider it as a new beginning & a new life with everything else behind you.

Answer 5

Do you know what wishful thinking means?

You are a victim of that… you wish your ex would behave and act the way you would like him to be, but if you be honest with yourself you know by yourself, that this will never happen.

You are separated from him because he is an egoist, a liar and because he made you feel miserable. He did not even care for his daughter… what do you expect NOW?

What would happen in the case you would go back to him?

2 weeks of sunshine and the rest of your life would mean rain and grey clouds.

There do exist men like this and these sorts of guys do not change. NEVER.

Don´t make your life miserable again and for heavens sake think about your daughter. He might be the biological father, but this means nothing… what really counts is acting like a father a whole life long.

You have the possibility to be happy and live a good life and you are questioning it?

I guess it is because you are afraid to be disappointed again and that´s why you somehow look for any excuse to not try to live a normal relationship and family life.

But girl, this way you will always be the looser. And your daughter too.

Your ex is getting nervous because he is an egoist and as he has a girl pregnant he wants to escape and run from responsibility (the same way as he did with you) and believe me, he will never be a husband for you or a father for your child.

He will always be the stranger who looks for his own profit.

He is using you badly.

And the other man won´t wait forever… don’t throw your happiness away… you do NOT love your ex…

Give love a chance!

All the best for you & your daughter!

Answer 6

You had not better close in your daughter's father.

It's too dangerous.

Tell the truth to your current partner, and ask him to cooperate with you.

You should live with him from now on.

Answer 7

you should get rid of your exboyfriend. Look the new boyfriend better. Or you shold ask the studentzone.roehampton.ac.uk/subjectinfo...  

Answer 8

leave the first

get the second one

good for u and ur family

Answer 9

You will always share a bond with your daughter's father, and will probably always have feelings for him, but you must move on.  If he was abusive then, chances are he still is.  What if he begins to hit on your daughter too?  You need to move on with your life and not let him hold you back.  This guy you are seeing sounds like the real deal.  Not many men would take on the responsibility of raising someone else's child, he sounds like a keeper.  I've been through this, you've got to do what's best for you and your daughter.  You will find happiness again, but you've got to let go of the past.

Answer 10

Takes time to get over someone, except in this case. Your Ex has hit you, that's something you never want to go though again, especially now that your daughter is older. I'm sorry that I dont understand why you would even think about your Ex. To me the answer is obvious.

Dump the Ex, Go with the good guy.