How do i get over my anger towards my father?

Question

my father got my mom pregnant when she was 16 contently cheated on her and then married some woman that he met in the military, after they were married he tried to get custody of me he didn't get it so he decided to stop paying child support thinking that he was hurting my mother when actually he was hurting me,he used to say horrible things about my mother and other relatives of hers and would try to bribe me to come live him it just bothers me to think if he has all this money to buy me new clothes and a tv and new game systems that he couldn't have set a little money on the side for child support recently he was ordered to pay child support I'm16 and he just now is starting to take responsibility...i know he loves me but it angers me when i think of the way he treated my mother how do i get over it?

Answer 1

You will more than likely wont get over it..

i have a father i have never met..won't even acknowledge me at all. or even at least say i don't want to have any contact with you at al

my step-father treated me and my mother like c**p..still does even when they have been divorced for almost 25 years. He even treats his own son the same way they haven't even talked to each other in almost 30 years.

only in time you will forget.. but never get over it at all

Answer 2

You don't have to "get over it - you have to ACCEPT it - you'll have to (in time) forgive your father, accept that he is who he is - then you will be able to move on from this - best of luck...

Answer 3

You can't get over it, that is the thing. It is a part of life and sometimes people just lash and vent out when it isn't appropriate. It is your job to say look dad, I understand you may not like my mom but she is still my mom and I would appreciate it if you kept your comments to yourself. He should be paying child support and your mom should go to the head of whatever his military personnel is and let them know because he can get into a lot of trouble for not paying child support. The military looks very down on dads who do not take care of their children so have her speak up and do something instead of letting this hurt you. Take care!

Answer 4

I can understand how frustrating that must be, as I am dealing with similar issues relating to my father. Like your father, mine was always trying to punish my mother for divorcing him by withholding child support payments or making backhanded comments about her. He never understood that my mother divorced him because of his own behaviour, just as he never understood that by attempting to punish my mother he was also punishing me.

To be honest, I've given up trying to explain this to him. I've tried to do my best to move past it and work it out on my own, and I avoid him as much as possible.