How do i get over my husband turning me down?

Question

i am 26 and my husband is 40 we have been together for 6 years married for 1 year, he is the only man i have evey been with . so my situation is that i was undressed and was looking for a little action and he turned me down what bothers me more is that he did not even look my way or try anything. i caught him on the internet like 2 months ago he was looking at p**n which that wouldnt have bothered me but it was at 3:00 am and i caught right after he had shot his load he tried to deny it but i knew that was what it was the only reason i got up is that he sometimes falls asleep on sofa so i thought that was what happened so i am just feeling really hurt right know ?

Answer 1

tell him YOU want to look at p**n, if its ok for him,,betcha he will change his attitude real quick, especially since you are way younger then him, and you have never experienced other guys...Dont sit back and let him do this to you...turn the tables on him...see how he likes that.

Answer 2

Funny you should mention it but I just had that same thing happen to me. I'm starting to think that men just need something different once in a while, and instead of going out and cheating, which would be worse, they use p**n. Really you shouldn't be too upset, guys get tired, they like a little action, without all the work sometimes! He's just being a guy, in my opinion.

Answer 3

If this is a one time thing (the turning you down for s*x) then you don't have anything to worry about.  People aren't always ready at the same time and an important part of marriage is sometimes knowing when to compromise on these issues.

However, if the p**n is often or always taking the place of intimate relations with you then you may have a serious problem that would take his willingness and a whole lot of counseling to work thorough.

Answer 4

pack yur bags and leave his p**n addicted ***

Answer 5

How often does this happen? Believe it or not most married men do look at p**n. However, there is a limit to how much and how often. If it is getting in the way of your relationship (sounds like it) or it is replacing the intimacy in the relationship then yeah, you need to have a talk. But, if he turns you down on occasion it may have nothing to do with you at all. It may be he is not into having s*x at the time. So, frequency, lack of respect for your emotions, and lack of intimacy is something you need to look at and approach him with it.    Good luck, hope things work out...