How do i get over my unstopable cocaine addiction when i have a boyfriend that has an unlimited supply?

Question

me and my boyfriend are in love...and theres no way im going to dump him to save myself. i always want to stay away from it but as soon as he brings it out in front of me and starts doing it..i cant say no. and once i do one line...a monster comes out of me and i cant stop all night nor do i want too. all my friends are worried about me...my nose is crusty im loosing weight even though i was skinny before. i REALLY want this to end...is there some way i can mentally beat it? help?

Answer 1

find a new boy friend  ; )

Answer 2

Since you wont dump your boyfriend, live with it.

Answer 3

my advice to u is get some help and tell him that if he is not willing to get help....yall are breaking up!! doing that stuff is not worth ur life!  

Answer 4

You should talk with him about it and see if he would give it up with you. You have to have the strength to leave him if he doesn't want to quit. Give him the choice between you and cocaine. If he doesn't want to quit cocaine to be with you then you're probably not with a good guy. You could at least stop hanging out with him when he's doing cocaine.

Answer 5

Cocaine addiction can be hard to control. Many everyday people have lost jobs, homes, and loved ones because they could not beat thier cocaine habits. I recommend you find some help. Here is a site that has addiction information and a list of addiction treatment centers so you can help. http://www.addictionselfhelp.com



Live strong

Answer 6

Move far, far away.  Stop all contact with him.

Answer 7

You should both try to seek help together..If he doesn't want to that's probably not the best person to love but it's not easy to just stop...Since you know what you're headed for you don't have to necessarily have to dump him but maybe just take a break, go to a rehabilitation center and help yourself..by the time you get back maybe you'll stay strong when you're around him..I'm sure you're friends and family don't want to see you go down because of a guy..please help yourself, there's so many options other than this and what you're doing..

Answer 8

When you say you won't leave him to save your life, do you mean literally?  That sounds like where you are going.  I've had my own coke issues, and I've known meth and cokeheads.   They were enough to eventually scare me straight.  You're right in not wanting to go there. Green isn't the proper color for a human being and caring more about a fix than people isn't living.

Shy of waking up to the reality you are living and the road you are traveling, getting your bf to take his habit and supply out of the house seems like your only answer.  If he won't, you really should reassess what you really mean to this guy and why you'd want to be with someone who would feed your addiction and care so little about your health.

PS - It's been going on 30 years for me.  When I read your question, I immediately had the smell, taste, feel and even small desire.  If a line was sitting here, I can't say for sure I wouldn't partake.  If he doesn't get his habit out of your life and fully support you quitting (no tease, no anniversary toots, etc), then leave him.  It is the only way you'll stop.  The sad part is that if you wait too long, those friends you have to support you may be gone.

Answer 9

its not too late, but like everyone is saying the answer you are refusing to acknowledge is your only option. You have to separate yourself from the drug, and the drug is from your boyfriend - hence you HAVE to get away from him. You are fooling yourself if you think he cares about you let alone LOVES you....he obviously has no respect for himself if he has an addiction to a drug, so he can't possible have any respect for you. All he's doing is bringing you down with him so he can have some company on the way out. Get out while you still can, good look babe and I really really do hope you get help for yourself.

Answer 10

if you don't wanna leave him then there nothing we can do unless he stops..

and don't you think that if he loved you he would respect you by not doing it in front of you?

but really its up to you to help your self!

Answer 11

Stop the music, the party is over.  Now you are realizing just how damaging the cocaine is and what kind of man you're with.

If he respected you and cared he wouldn't have been giving you the party favors.  If he loved you he wouldn't want you to become a low life disgusting addict.

Get into rehab, give him an ultimatum, although I prefer dumping him.

Bottom line, you're going to die if you don't get away from him.  

Answer 12

Have your boyfriend quit with you.  He should see how cocaine is affecting the both of you and how dangerous drugs are.  Use money and the possibility of getting caught as reasons too.  As the old saying goes, out of sight out of mind.  Get rid of all the cocaine.

Answer 13

if your boyfriend really truly loved you, he would stop subjecting you to such horrible vices. you need to get out of that relationship, and fast. if he continues to subject you to these things especially, you need to stop. cut off contact with him for a while, even if it's just a break. take time for yourself. go visit your family, or go to a place where you have no access to cocaine. i know this doesn't sound like even an option for you, but the drastic weight loss and cravings say enough. it's the only option. if you have no self control when you're around him and cocaine, you need to completely remove your situation for a while, if not forever.

Answer 14

Hey girl...first off, good for you for wanting to quit...that is the most important part!

It is a good idea to cut yourself off from your bfriend, however I know what love can do to you. The best option for you is to get into an inpatient rehabilitation center. They can help w/your rehabilitation and maybe when your bfriend sees how well you do...he'll want to get involved.

Good luck!

Answer 15

The answer you dont want is the only one there is.  You're still plenty young and I'm sure the drugs are putting a fake visage on your relationship anyway.

It's not worth the relationship.  If you go to jail your record will be ruined permanently and you won't be able to find a job, get an apartment, etc.  If you're boyfriend can't stop cocaine for you, then he isn't worth it.  

Don't F*** up your life more than it already is.  

Answer 16

if you don't wanna dump him, then you deserve to die at 30

Answer 17

give me all your coke? that way you cant do it. : )    

Answer 18

I just sent you a IM.

I will offer this to you. The thing that stop me was the shortness of the high. But even more than that the depression when you hit the bottom. Take a look in the mirror and see how it age's you.

Lastly you must love yourself, before you can love another. Do you love yourself enough to quit doing a drug that you know is destroying your life.  

Answer 19

If you and your boyfriend are in love, shouldn't he care about you and see how out of control you say you are becoming? You need to get rid of him. It's the only way. Lets say you did quit, do you think you and your boyfriend would have much in common anymore?? You're cleaned up, and he's dealing.

You need to dump him, or at least take a break, get some help, then re-evaluate your life and see if your boyfriend would still fit into your new life.

Have you even thought about it?? You quit, and he still has it around, in an unlimited supply, like you say, it's going to be way too hard for you to be around it. Both of you should stop. If he doesn't want to, dump him. You may not want to, but it's the only way.

Answer 20

cocaine is badd **** </3

but anywayss maybe try to get your boyfriend to stop with you if .

also try looking on google for maybe places you can both go to get better so you can bet it together <3  

Answer 21

You and your boyfriend arent as in love as you think you are because if you are trying to kick a habit and he continues to bring that stuff around you then how much does he care abot you or your feelings. He might want you to keep doing it because it allows him to feel better about himself.Try convincing him to quit as well and youll do it together or get away from him. There is no other way to do it. Nothing in life worth having has been easy obtaining. And who knows when you are sober you might not even need that man. You wiill see things from a whole new perspective. Since it obvious that he does not care yo uhave to care about you. You have to love you. There is no easy way to fight an addiction mentally. And you need to go to a NA meeting

Answer 22

you need to dump him, and if you don't be prepared to die at 45: no kids, no marriage,no money, no friends. everyone can make a choice, might not be easy but its what must be done. its your decision.

Answer 23

Admitting you have a problem is the first step to recovery. If you loved your friend and he loved you. You both would look at one another and that would be enough encouragement to stop. But in reality that probly will not happen. Love you and get help for your boyfriend. he needs your strength. Make an appointment to see a doctor and get checked. I am sure you will want children of your own one day. Try to get into a rehab and spend sometime alone.. Your ready to quit because you took the first step for help. Be strong and fight.. Your beautiful and we/ your friend and family need you,, Good Luck