How do i get over shyness?!

Question

im so shy and lacking in confidence..

i feel like people are judging me all the time..

and that everyones so much better then me..

i always think of the negitive things ...

whats wrong??

Answer 1

Thats natural with many of the gals and not only u dear, So dont feel lonely with this.

Even I used to b d same as u described... I was always nervurs even while delievering speeches in d skul!!!

Nyways, jus think dat - others r fools and less than u . believe me u will overcum public speeches or such. But never mean dat- lol !!!

Look at d mirror & talk to urself as if to sum1. Dress nicely and walk thinking as if u r d best dressed but dont think that arrogancy.. This will help u walk confidently wherveer u wish!

Make urself Happy abt ur being. ur possessions and everything... this will add to ur confidence level!

Never think that u r less than others, notice others, there r many people who may not deserve much attentions due to their less intelligence or watever but they are still the Light of the group and enthusiastic. Thats all coz they gain confidence, they look at der brighter sides and get happy abt that, from inside which automatically shows outside!!! Thus they look confident.

U need to look at ur brighter side, luk at ur positive things. Think abt wat all good u have. U will surely find many things better than others or equal and then u wud think part of them and equally confident.

Remember, ders no one wh knows u better than u urself, s find out in u ur qualities, good ones and feel confident!

Feel confident abt wat u have in all! Ofcourse no one is less, every1 is equal!

"Value wat u have now rather than moaning for wat u dont have- that only wastes time"

Communicate with people by eye contact, never look down or her and der, Looking at d eyes while communicating will give u inner confident believe me!!!

All d best buddy!

Answer 2

Try Self-Hypnosis

Its supposed to be good for these things

look it up on google or something

Answer 3

Try talking to people more often. Tell yourself that you are capable of walking up to people and talking to them. Get into a big group of girls, and you should get used to it, eventually you'll wonder, "why was i ever like that?"

Answer 4

You need to learn what you do best and work on it to improve your self esteem.Use your strenghts to win.Winning is what raises our self esteem and loosing is what decreases it.

To conquer your weaknesses you must face your fears.

The site bellow contains very accurate personality tests that can help you learn more about yourself.

http://www.blogthings.com/

Answer 5

you just need to get out there and join things i have this same problem (without the negativity) and learn to love yourself cause your wonderful just the way you are!

hope this helps!

Answer 6

surround yourself with positive energy

think positive thoughts

talk to positive people

do positive things (volunteering, donating, etc.) don't think about the negative things because you realize now that it isn't helping you, so try and only concentrate on the positivity. i know it's difficult but

you'll feel alot better about yourself this way

and if you are religious try prayer, because believing in something can help you believe in yourself

also, try exercising more often

exercise releases necessary chemicals in the brain (such as serotonin and dopamine) that are responsible for how you feel.

good luck! =] you'll be fine  

Answer 7

first realize that your not alone, I was that way too I was so afraid of what others thought of me, that I never talked to anyone, I tried to avoid people cause of what they might think of me...so now I do things that make me feel good about myself..like being nice to people(giving), and working out...maybe those things could help you.

Answer 8

It all seems intertwined with your obvious confidence lackage. I have the same problem.

Thing is, if you don't love yourself, you're going to feel everyone is judging you and is more skilled and talented because it's how you feel about yourself. You seek approval of others to make up for your own loss when really if you loved yourself, none of that would matter. Keep doing the things you KNOW your good at. Look at yourself with love and compassion, and look at all the things you do. Once you are comfortable in your own skin, shyness will be nothing of an issue.  

Answer 9

start feeling go about your self

Answer 10

Yep,

I got the same Problem!

But I am trying to get over it though

Just be yourself.