How do i get rid of all this anger and stress?

Question

I just got out of a long relationship; 1 yr and 10 months. We went from planning to get married to never seeing each other again. The next day I found out my mom is cheating on my step-dad and they're getting divorced. Now I have all this anger and stress built up and I don't know how to get it out. I've been spending as much time as possible with my friends but any time I get alone I just cry and get a huge urge to just hurt someone....anyone really. I'm angry with my mom for doing it because I have 4 siblings who will be greatly affected by it but then I feel selfish for making her want to stay with someone she apparently doesn't love anymore. I don't know what to do..I have t get these out..in a safe manner

*** Please no answers that say go to church, look to God, or anything along those lines. I'm athiest and I don't think religion is really going to help me feel better. It would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

Answer 1

Well this is my honest belief first stop blaming your mom because if she did something that you dont agree with, that is not your life or choice to say, she is a grown women don't let it get to you because it obviously making you angry, yes it is okay to be concern for your sibling that understandable but as i mentioned that is not for you to take care of.  Secondly what i do is write what im feeling down, any time i feel down or angry i write it down or I tell myself is this  how i want to be acting, then i ask  my own  brain to find a more resourceful plan of action or activity to handle the situation, and about your long relationship I'm going on 6 years now and we also broke  up our 3rd year, so you might get back and if you don't, don't let it get you down because there is always someone or something around the corner.  Good Luck.  Relax  a bit.  

Answer 2

HI...

Umm I too have a lot of anger. Mostly people would never guess. I am really good at hiding it. I am one to let it bottle up inside and then BAM! IT is like woah... I've gotten in trouble with my mother due to this anger and stress.

   What I found to relieve this stress, anger, pain, curiosity, anything really is write. I started out in a journal. I still tend to it. Then I started with poems. After a while I took on novels. You can write about anything, even your self with out people knowing. i.e. You could have been raped, and to get it out your write about how you feel and how you are dealing with it through a story. I've been through a lot. I am sorry to hear what you are going through, and hope you do find a way to cope with it. (No I wasn't raped. Just giving an example)

   Also, you are disappointed with your mom, what I do when my mom is pissing me off, or anyone in general, and write there name in the middle of the paper and jot down mean things about them. Instead of saying it to them, and hurting there feelings due to your anger, it is silently let out on paper.

   Hope I've helped... That is what I do. You can try it. And sorry if it doesn't work. But it sure does for me. Good luck. :)

Answer 3

Try screaming into a pillow or your bed. That's what I do when I need to release anger. If you don't feel like doing that, you can find something like a punching bag to hit.

Answer 4

find a punching bag to work your stress out on, avoid a live one because that'll cause more trouble, a mattress against the wall tends to be safe and effective, get your screaming out as you go

Answer 5

  Yell, scream exercise.  I'm an atheist too.  If God created man in his image, who or what created God?  My parents broke up too.  My father never did very much with us, we were better off without him.  I don't know about your family though.  Spend as much time as you can with your good friends.  If you have a close friend, talk to them about it.  Why did your mom have so many children with a man she doesn't love?  Maybe they just grew apart, went different directions.  You are in a very tough spot.  Your siblings are going to look up to you more now.  Maybe if you are there to comfort and guide your siblings,  they will love you and give you the strength to carry on.  Good luck.

Answer 6

Just go inside your room, stretch your whole body and lay on your bed, read a book with a glass of something and a plate of some chips or food den read the book and finish it with nobody in the house then jus relax and take a shower and bretahe in and out slowly and deeply and forget abotu everything that has hurt you just relax and calm down

Answer 7

write in a journal thats what i do