How do i go about finding finding my biological grandpa when my dad never knew his name?

Question

I was born with the last name my dad had which was given to him as a baby when he was adopted by man that married my grandma....still with me? My dad never knew his biological father because his mom (my grandma) refuses to let any one know for some reason or another. My dad died shortly after i was born in a car accident.....My grandma finally told me a name that sounded like dole or dull or something but now she denies telling me that and dont know if she was bs'n me. Even if she was telling the truth i dont know the pronounciation or spelling of my real last name.

Answer 1

You can try and send for your father's birth certificate or death certificate.  My brother was in the same situation as you are in.  I was checking on ancestry.com the other day and put in my mother's name and did a search.  It came up with the listing of a birth certificate on my brother in his real name.  Not under his adopted name.  I was really surprised.  Obviously the county he was born in sealed his adoption records and created a new birth certificate, but never got rid of the old one.  Good Luck in you search.

Answer 2

either you need to get it out of your grandmother or get a copy of your fathers original birth certificate and that may be hard, but since he is deceased and you are his son you may be able to request a copy of it from the hospital he was born at. But I ask you to stop and ask yourself why she doesn't want anyone to know, she probably has a very good reason to protect herself an dthe rest of her family, you should step back and trust her decission. Some times there are things in this world that we really don't want to know. If your gandmother didn't move around alot, eben with a last name change, your biological grandfather could have found you guys very easily if he had wanted to, did he? I'm sorry you are going through this but there are answers to life that can be found out threw other sources. Blood lines are not always the answer to what is hurting us. Either way you go I wish you good luck, keep your heart open but your mind sharp. GL!

Answer 3

Good luck.

My dad never knew his birth father either.  His mother would never speak of the man and denied it until the day she died.  But other family did tell my dad the man's name.  But, that was all they knew.  My dad is 66 now and has searched his entire adult life, but a name is not enough to go on.  No one knew anything of his family.  If they had, I maybe at least could have found him on census records with his family.  He is probably dead now, but my dad would at least like to know his other family.