How do i handle nieces' fighting?

Question

i keep my 4 year old and 5 year old nieces often. i am 24. i always put them activities like ballet and swimming lessons so i see them quite a bit.

they are sisters. when they fight, i dont see everything. so when one says the other hit her first, and the other denies it, how da h**l do i handle that? i mean, seriously. i really dont know who is telling the truth. one has got to be lying. so what should i do?

Answer 1

Punish them both,after all they did hit each other.Doesn't matter who did it first,the point is that both of them hit each other.

  If they get mad tell them what i just told you.

Answer 2

Tell them that unless one has a bone protruding through skin or an arterey has been severed when they fight not to come to you.

Answer 3

Well if you know one of them is lying you need to strangle both of them until they tell the truth

JUST PLAYING

you should make consequences for them to follow like make them do somthing until one of them say they hit the other one first tric k them and say you won't get in trouble if you tell me the truth

Answer 4

So far, so good...

Both lying and hitting are "not ok" behaviors, and discipline needs to happen. At 4 and 5 years old, these girls may not quite have a grasp of right and wrong, but they do understand rules, what they want and like, etc.

"Hitting is not ok. Do you like it when someone hits you?... ok, then you shouldn't hit others, including your sister. From now on, when either of you hit someone, (think of some appropriate result- required chore, lost privelege, etc) will happen"... and then follow through.

When the hitting starts up again, and it comes time for the punishment, don't get punative, like you enjoy inflicting this on the girls, explain that you feel sad that they chose the punishment by hitting.

Remember that the words "discipline" and "disciple" come from the same Greek root that applies to teaching and learning, with a lot of effort thrown in for good measure.

Disciplining kids isn't about punishment or being mean- it's about teaching the child. Learning isn't always fun or easy.

Answer 5

make them put their arms in the air and make them hold hands it worked on me and my 5 brothers