How do i handle seeing the people who kicked me out?

Question

ok, last year i moved in with my step brother and his wife and their two kids. it went alright for a while (we had a lot of fights, and i was almost kicked out weeks after i moved in because i wanted to dye my hair, but we made up). the entire time i was living with them, i could hear them talking behind my back, behind closed doors and to other people about me, which really hurt my feelings. i have always been one to talk if i had any major problems, but these people were the exact opposite. while i lived with them, they never decided whether they wanted to treat me as their best friend, their children's nanny, or one of their kids. it was very confusing, considering their kids took every opportunity to point out that i wasn't really a part of their family, and thier daughter (age six) constantly told me that she wanted me to move out, and even once accused me (to my face) that i was abusing her. but then, nearly a year after i moved in, i decided to move back in with my folks to work on my relationship with my mother. then all h**l broke loose, and my step brother and his wife began going through my things, flipping out at the slightest thing. they found a diary entry i worte saying how frustrated i was at always taking care of the kids, and also they found a recipe that i had stuck inside a book (i didn't notice it was a recipe. to me it was a folded peice of paper), and we had a huge fight that ended up in me getting kicked out weeks before i was supposed to leave, which could have ended in me failing a whole semester of school (thank god it didn't. it was a pure "praise jesus" moment). now, i am going to see them after eight months. i am pretty much over the stabbing sense of betrayal, but i still have my resentments. how can i get over my emotions and put this in my past?

Answer 1

I think that you just have to forgive them for yourself. They were probably just as frustrated as you were. After all this time you have to just say forget it. There is no piont in you being angry. Just be polite and things will go smoothly. If you let go of the resentment, or atleast appear to be polite they will have to take that. If they ar rude or nasty to you than that shows you what type of people they are. Be happy that you did well in school and that you are building a relationship with your mom. Times are rough but be happy in the decisions you've made. You are only in control of your own actions and what someone else does...you can't help.  Good luck :)

Answer 2

Look at this as a learning experience and next time you go into a roommate situation like that make sure everyone involved knows what is expected from them.  I've been in your step brother's families shoes and know that it can be frustrating when the person who is "sitting" for the kids as a part of their rent is never available to actual stay with them.  I'm not saying that's what happened but I bet there were a lot of missed cues on all sides here.

Let any anger go.  Holding on to it won't hurt them but will hurt you.  "Holding on to anger is like taking poison and expecting it to kill your enemy."  unknown  But also be aware that if you're spending time with them you may need to make sure what their expectations are before you agree to do stuff together.

Answer 3

Accept that you're not the one who burned any bridges here.

Normally, one takes a problem to someone and explains what behavior is unacceptable, but these people are so emo...why should you even care? Just laugh as they s***w up their lives.

Answer 4

just let it go, don't let anger build up