How do i handle the hurt??

Question

i'm leaving my country of residence. i've lived here for the last 5 years and i was just settling down with my boyfriend. we have been living together for a year and dating for three. now that i'm leaving we cant seem to come to an agreement. he's stubborn and jealous and don't know how he will make it when i'm gone. most of all how can i look at this move from a positive point of view? i hate this country and i would never come back but for him. my move is definitely good for me but bad for our relationship. i love him so much and i hate the thought of leaving him. what can i do to make it better? we have discussed visiting but i don't know if any guy can go for months without s*x so maybe he'll cheat. i don't know. do we even have a chance?

Answer 1

Why would you want to stay with someone who isn't supporting your decision to leave a place that doesn't make you happy? And if he really does love you then he wouldn't try to keep you there. He's trying to guilt you into staying, but you need to decide if he's really worth staying someplace you hate. From what you've said he doesn't seem to be worth it. Take a long look at your relationship with him and ask yourself if a jealous man who wants to keep you somewhere you hate is what you really want or need.

Answer 2

Have you asked yourself why you really want to leave?  

You say you hate your country even while living with him so what would you feel like in a strange country without him or any of your associates?  Consider why you hate your country and see if anything can be done to change it.

Love is too precious and fragile to just throw away unless there is an EXTREMELY good reson.  Are you maybe just hoping or imagining that another country would be so much better?

Answer 3

Why can't he go with you?

Answer 4

If you love him that much you should stay with him. I assume there is a reason he can't go with you wherever you're moving. If i was the guy and if you moved i would consider it the end of the relationship. If you love someone you can live in the crappiest place and still be happy. So maybe you're not so happy with him if you would consider putting that much distance and that much strain in your relationship. So let say you move but you really do love him that much (doubt it) you will be unhappy in Paradise because he is not with you or you're wondering if he's cheating ..... If you love him stay with him and try to make it so you would be happier with the place...some king of compromise on both parts. However you choose good luck to you.

Answer 5

Be positive by accepting that he is glad that you are leaving him because he found you very boring and not stimulating at all.  Go to a new country and find another man who can motivate you to be stimulating and interesting person.

Answer 6

Can't he go with you? If he really loves you, he won't cheat on you. But if your not planning on coming back..the poor guy has to move on. Your leaving him, what the guy to do? Did you even invite him to come along?