How do i handle the stress?

Question

My husband is currently overseas, Im at home with our 4 and 6yr old boys. they have started fighting like crazy. I almost cant deal with it. It gets worse with each passing day. Im a very patient person, but I feel like Im being pushed further then ever. What can I do to keep them from fighting?

Answer 1

first try sitting them down and asking why they are fighting,than tell them they will have time outs for fighting or house work to do,something they don,t like,good luck

Answer 2

girl i feel ya...i have a 7 year old daughter and a 5 year old boy, it seems like the second they get home from school "Satan" over took them and said have fun the rest of the night!!!   LOL my hubby works nights and i feel like a single parent allllll the time, my best way to calm down and get a grasp on things is to watch a movie, trick them into making forts in there rooms. they also fight like h**l too, a good way to stop that is to have them "make mommy special coloring pages together", have them think they are playing school and they have to "play" by school rules, manipulation is the best way...having them play or do anything that they both can connect on is the best.... as 2 boys...have them play pirates, have them build a fort outta sheets, or try different web sites.... there is tons of "non-fighting" games u can find. trust me...just keep looking          Good luck Hun.

Answer 3

I also have 2 boys ages 9 and 10 now. When they are fighting a lot I will put on loud music and have them do a dance contest or something physical to get their aggression out. I also explain to them that constant fighting is not allowed in our home and if they continue they will  go to the dining table with their heads down for 5 minutes, they seem to get better after that.

Answer 4

Let them have it out I have an 8,5, 3 year old with me.  They fight about every little thing and it'll stop for awhile but don't worry there are good and bad days.  Sorry there is nothing that will stop this.  Right now my 8 and 3 are coloring just fine.  The 5 year is in another room doing her own thing this will only last for about 5 minutes if I'm lucky 10 minutes. It's usually the 5 and 3 year that fight a lot, don't worry they grow out it.  Take Care now.

Answer 5

I agree, there is not much you can do about the fighting.  You can, however, enforce a quiet time for a certain time period each day...and make it consistent.... You can read to the kids during this time, or give them coloring books or paper to draw pictures, listen to their favorite kid music, etc.

I'd also suggest getting special coloring books if you're going to do something like that, and special paper (colored?) for these times.  Stuff they don't see all the time?

This would give you some "sanity" time.

Answer 6

What a challenge to have the boys on your own at the moment. Boys particularly really need to know who is in charge and what the rules are. If the fighting is constant and unnecessary seperate them or have some consequences. Ask a trusted friend or relative to mind your boys while you have time out for yourself. All the best.

Answer 7

nothing, siblings fight. the best thing you can do is get them boxing gloves and designate a safe place in the house to wrestle or box, make clear rules (ie no face shots) and let em go at it. once they see that it doesn't drive you nuts they wont do it as often and it wont last as long when they do. Make sure they know that if some one gets hurt they are on their own as it was their decision to fight in the first place. Keep in mind that if they are bruising each other or there is blood this has gone beyond sibling rivalry and you should talk to their pediatrition

Answer 8

I have seven kids and I let them fight it out unless it gets ugly and you know what they always figure it out and a few days later will be best friends again. My mom did that with me and my sisters and now my sister is my best friend in the whole world, she lives next door and I see her everyday. I think kids will be kids and you need to let them do it, because it is normal and healthy.

As for you and stress, leave the area when they are fighting if they do it for example in the kitchen where you are cooking dinner tell them to take it somewhere else. I would just go somewhere quiet and try to relax, try yoga. Good luck and hang in there.