How do i help my 6 year old daughter out?

Question

every day when i pick her up from school, i ask her how her day was. and every day she tells me about this girl whos really rude and is a "mean bully". my baby tells me how pretty the girl is, and that she takes her friends away and all that. from what shes told me, its obvious that the girl is constantly putting my daughter down. i keep telling her of things to say back and stand up for her self, but she says " no mommy thats snitching". i dont want her going through this and it hurts me seeing her sad every day. i dont want her self esteem lowered either. i know theyre just kids, but moms out there, im sure you understand what im feeling. ill use any help that i can get.any ideas on what i should say or do?

Answer 1

That is exactly what I am dreading when I send my children to school. I don't know how to handle my own child being bullied and worrying about them constantly.

The best thing you can do in this situation is make your daughter stronger. Although she is just 6, she sounds like an extremely intelligent young girl. Talk to her and make her realize how special she is and that no one can bring her down no matter what.

These girls in school sound like they hate your daughter and what a better time to teach your daughter about "haters" than now. People are going to hate you your whole life for some stupid reason or another until the day you die. The fact that these girls already have their own little "click" together says a lot. Talk to your daughter about these girls being insecure already at such a young age and how sad it is for them. Your daughter will get so very strong from this- a strength that will last her whole life.

The fact that she does not want to snitch says a lot about her character. There are not very many people in life like her. She is a strong individual who has acquired some selfish and mean people in her life already.

The more you talk to her and have her understand these things, the stronger she will get.

Good luck to you and your daughter, but with such a strong character as she already has, I know she will make it through this.

Answer 2

Oh my goodness...I completely understand what you're feeling!!!!!!!  I'd want to go wait for her outside on the playground!!!!!!!!

I think maybe you should talk to the teachers, see if they've noticed anything, brainstorm with them on ways for them to get involved and balance out the situation...?

Maybe y'all should go stand in front of a mirror and talk about all her pretty traits...ask her if she thinks that you're pretty.  When she tells you yes...point out all of the assets she has that she received from you! :)

There's a girl name Mia at my daughter's preschool that decides she's going to be my daughter's friend one day and not the next.  It never ceases to hurt her when she 'didn't make the cut' that day. :(  I've told her to stick with the people that she knows really is her friend.  I've also explained to how sometimes people are mean because they're jealous of YOU.

I wish I had more to tell you!!

Good luck...I feel so sad for your sweetie.  (And for you, as a parent!)

Answer 3

I would talk to her teacher about it. You're right; she doesn't need to have her confidence shaken like this and the teachers need to be stepping in and helping the girls learn how to get along. It's hard for you to assist much if you're not there.

Answer 4

I've dealt with this at a 6yr. old level and a 15 yr. old level all in the same year. The one thing I told both was that if these girls were swayed so easily then they weren't really her friends. And as an esteem builder I said they weren't good enough to be her friends anyway(haha).not as easy for a 15 yr. old though. Hope this helps Good Luck.

Answer 5

I think that you should try talking to the teacher first so that she can try and talk with the child or the child's mother.If you daughter still comes and complains, tell the teacher yourself that the child is still bothering your daughter and that you would like to talk with the parents of the other girl yourself.In that case,be sincere and tell the mother if she would like for that to be happening to her daughter, she will most likely understand you and put some kind of restrictions on the little girl.