How do i ignore my sister when everything she says hurts so much?

Question

my sister is 20 years old but she never acts like it. she'll say some of the meanest stuff just to get under my skin. i.e. "why are you so ugly? i'm pretty with and without make-up but you're ugly either way." or "i'm glad one of us will go to college and be succesful." and i've never even said i'm not going to college. i'm still in highschool. i can't talk to her. i've tried to my whole life. she likes to bring me down and thrives off lowering my self esteem. what can i do to just efectively ignore her?

Answer 1

Your sister sounds like she has some issues. Is she into drugs or something?

By the age of 20, most people have outgrown the being-mean-to-your-sibling" stage. That's horrible that she hasn't ...sorry.

If someone is bringing me down constantly, I'll remove them from my life.  It truly is not your fault if she's saying these kinds of things to you.  I would put hold on your relationship with her until she gets over this stage.  I'm sure she'll regret it when she's older.  

Answer 2

you should tell her shes hurting you if you havnt done that yet

Answer 3

Wow, thats sad that your own sister treats you that way. Family is supposed to be a refuge.

Best way to ignore her is stay away from her as much as possible. It'll be hard but do whats necessary. Treat her with as much love and respect as possible because you don't want to stoop to her level, and maybe she'll change from your actions.

Eventually her personality will stop her dead in her tracks when it comes to the 'accomplishments' she brags about. But if you keep your personality as pleasant as possible. You'll bypass her and maybe she'll change her outlook.

This isn't the best answer but its a thought.

Answer 4

you are the only one that can bring down your self esteem...."S-E-L-F.... esteem" you must think everything that comes out of her mouth is true. grow a backbone a little have an attitude that says u are Beautiful and smart dont listen to what other people have to say about you only you can determine what you are.

Answer 5

Dont ingore her omg shes just going to do it more get some fight lessons or just hit her in the lip so she gets a fatty and she wil shut up or she will fight back thats why i said fighting lessons then punch her :O or do somthing like get her tooth brush and scrub the inner underside of the toilet with it and wash it off so nothing is on it then dry and put it back so everytime she calls you a name or somthing just think of what her mouth smells like LOL

Answer 6

It is really hard to ignore bothersome communication.  However, we all know that what we think about is what we bring about....  Sooooo,  When she is being nasty to you again try thinking of something really really really funny and start laughing in her face like she said something funny.  

It may p**s her off the first couple of times... But maybe she will stop trying to hurt you once she sees that she can't anymore.  

Keep your head up Girl... "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent"  this is my favorite quote by Ms. Eleanor Roosevelt.  

Answer 7

Is she just joking arond?

Or does she really mean to hurt you?

I know this might sound weird,

because people dont do this alot.

But sit down with her and talk about it.

Ask her if she's joking or being serious because it really hurts your feelings.

& if she continues to not listen to you.

Talk to your parents.

Or use one of those guidance counsellors at school?

Answer 8

distance yourself because you don't need the negativity. She'll need you before you need her, trust. She'll be wishing she could spend time with you, then you tell her about herself. Don't let no one think they can just sit up and abuse you verbally, show her your not taking her c**p.

Answer 9

shes mean were the same but my sister is younger than me she is 13 and i'm 15 its so hard i know how u feel :(( when u will know the answer tell me also. :x

Answer 10

The best way to ignore her is to find your own friends and just don't think about her. If she says something mean, she's enjoying your discomfort, so give her a blank look like you don't understand what she's saying and walk away. Then avoid her as much as possible. Remember, if she's trying to create low self esteem in you, you need to build your self esteem.  

Answer 11

talk to her about your feelings because deep down she loves you.

Answer 12

Never let her see your annoyed if you can laugh or smile and never never get angry.

Answer 13

come up with something better so every time she bugs you say something like your just jelous cause you are not this pretty or whatever loser and walk on think of a better comeback and then just walk away

Answer 14

my brother does the same to me. exactly the same.

TRUST ME. dont let it get to you. be strong. eventually she'll grow out of it. dont let it affect or ruin your life. be the mature one. its hard but i managed and my brother eventually grew out of it and were pretty close.

good luck to you. please dont let her get to you.

Answer 15

If she knows that this is bothering you she will keep doing it.Tell her at least you not a bit-- like her.

Answer 16

Just day dream during the time she talks to you,

when I say day dream, I mean imagine how in a couple of years you are going to be doing more with your life than she ever will.

It's just like the kids at school who pick on others.. You realize that one day they will be working at burger king handing you your meal, meanwhile you are off doing your job that's paying you four times more than what they are getting.

Answer 17

Be the bigger person by ignoring her!  

Answer 18

The Best thing to do is ignore her. And if she hurts you that much just imagine the things she's saying is how she is going to turn out and your going to be the complete oppisite. And i'm sure you that will work because thats what i did to my older brother.

Answer 19

Tell Mum and Dad.  

Answer 20

Hay listen up i know what do u feel really i feel it like u my sister do this also  but there is my answer when she hurts u try to talk to her very nice and be nice with her and smile to her man try this please only a week and the problem will be solved and believe me  when it finish up u will be happy to  do this again and you and your sister will live happy life together  



                            GOOD LUCK

Answer 21

Just that...IGNORE her.  When you stop responding to her in any fashion, she'll eventually find a new target for her own personal misery.

If you've discussed this with your parents, then it may be time to reintroduce the topic.  

But really the only way to deal with her is to NOT deal with her.  Talk to her only as a necessity (pass the pepper sort of thing) and otherwise just avoid the b*tch.

Answer 22

if i was you i would slap that ***** up  

Answer 23

There really arent that many ways other than sitting down with her and telling her exactly how you feel. I think she would understand if you told her how you remember these things and tell her how much they hurt you.

Answer 24

She is very immature. I would tell her everytime she says something mean that it hurts you even if she doesn't mean it (she might try denying that she is saying mean things, she might say "I'm just saying the truth" or whatever) you could also tell her it's not true and she is an ugly person. Hurt her feelings and take her down a notch lol

I feel so bad when big sisters pick on little ones :(

Answer 25

i have an older sister who is also like that. I've just tried to avoid her as much as possible. I found an outlet, for me it was horseback riding, but whatever works for you. I just spent as much time out of the house as possible and when i was home i went to a different part of the house then her. I don't know if it will work for you but that's what i did.

Answer 26

KILL HER!!!!!!!!!!!

That's how i deal with my problems.and s***w it kill the whole family I'm a orphan planning on family kill #2

JK

But seriously

You should knock her out whenever she says that shell get the point eventually.

Answer 27

Only you can answer that.  When you stop reacting to her taunts and criticisms she will lose her power to hurt you.  Good luck, I know words can and do hurt, you just have to realize that she has the problem, not you.

Answer 28

Ask her honestly in a non-accusatory way why she is so mean when  you are both calm. Try to talk about it. She may not realize she is hurting your feelings, she might just think it is a joke.

Answer 29

same with me! tell mom or dad or call child services!

or you can say mean stuff back to her or you can just say 'thank you' to every insult and act like you don't care!

once she sees that you don't care she will stop!

Answer 30

when you stop caring, she'll stop talking like that.

Answer 31

make it not hurt if u know what i mean