How do i keep friends from walking all over me?

Question

i have a friend who has been treating me (possibly without being aware of it) like it doesnt matter if she talks to me or not, or hangs out or not.

there are oter small issues like not taking into consideration my opinions or feelings, etc.

i wrote a letter to her explaining (nicely) how i have been feeling about the way she is treating me. she wrote me a letter back saying she cares about me and that she will respond to my letter soon.

it has been a week and she just sent me a text message today saying that she will respond to my letter 3 days from now.

i responded telling her that if she cares about the friendship she will act like it, and make the effort to spend 10 minutes to respond to my letter. i fuirther explained that it takes hardly any effort to do this even when super swamped.

so i want to know if this was the right approach? should i say anything else? have i been too nice? too mean? i have been very patient, and i havent been overly accusatory and have even taken into consideration that she is busy. but at this point it seems like im being too generous with my time.

i care about the friendship and i would like to just let it go, but that means she will have walked all over me and not have had to taken responsibility for treating me so poorly.

so how do i get the respect that a friend should get, not get walked over, and still remain friends?

Answer 1

I think you were right.  It doesn't take much time for this so called friend to say, "No way have I been avoiding you.  You're my BFF.  I've just been busy.  In fact, I'm busy now.  Give me some time and I'll explain everything to you."

Give her ALL the time she needs to respond to you.  Meanwhile, start searching for new friends.

Answer 2

This is really quite a simple one really. If you do not want people to walk all over you or to treat you like a doormat, then all you really need to do is to get up off the floor. They treat you like that because they can! Because you let them

Answer 3

I got walked over so many times, especially in elementary and middle school. They treat me like a tool, not a person. If they needed answers for homework, they'd ask me. I didn't even feel like a person when they did that to me. Especially when my friends did that to me. I know how much you want to remain friends but still receive the proper respect, but it's hard for some people to do that (to give respect). She obviously doesn't think of you as a first priority, or even a second! People who have manners as a decent human, or as a friend, always find time to fit their family and friends in, no matter how busy they are or how much they have on their hands. If I were you, I'd talk face to face with her, and tell her how much you've been feeling disrespected and low on her list of priorities and that you don't want to deal with that anymore. If you guys can't settle your friendship with a face-to-face meeting, then I don't think it can ever be settled, especially with letters and e-mails. Good luck and remember that friendships aren't limited. You can move on and earn respect and give respect to someone who truly cares for you as much as you care for them.

Answer 4

If she truly cared she would of contacted you as soon as she had the letter , shes kept you hanging on and to me sounds like a user and not someone i would class as a friend.

Sending her the letter wasn't wrong you needed to tell her how you felt better then bottling it up- ive been through the same.

You need to get out there though and stop waiting around for her it doesn't seem like she s going to contact you im sorry to say.

You need to toughen up and dont let people take you for granted if they do they dont deserve to have you as a friend.