How do i let go of my grandma?

Question

My Grandmother passed away this past december. She was diagnosed with lung cancer on September 23, and Died December 9th, 2007~. I miss her so much and i love her with all my heart.

She lived with my family and i, downstairs. (We live in a large raised ranch). She was my everything, inluding my hero. I miss her and i want her back. I have been depressed and my parents have been fighting alot and i dont like it. I want times go back to normal, when she was alive...

I love them both. How can i deal with this pain so much? I cry every night thinking about her... how she was sick and lost alot of her hair and how she was always anxious, always asking to get up and move when she was tired but ansy. I miss her with all my heart and would give up my life for her to be back. this summer is hard for me because she was here and now the house is silent...

help!?!?

Answer 1

omg my heart goes out to you hun..

i had to cope with 2 deaths in a week!

imagine how devasted i was..:(

wat i do is..

Pray every night and look at old photographs of the good times..

have a good cry

just think how much my grandma would not like to see me crying

visit her grave

i no its not easy coping with death, but just think she was going to have to go sometime..life is so unfair that way...i no alot of old people as my dad would be a well known man around the area..and once i meet them, weeks after,they have gone!.. its so hard..

and the fact that your parents are fighting does not help!...

ask your mom to stop fightin and that this time is not hard enuff as it is!...

i no you asked 'how do i let go of my grandma?'

but my question to you is 'do you really want to?'

Answer 2

Hey.Im sorry about your grandma...my 2 sisters died and my grandma...and im so young...im not fifteen,im younger..,one year till im a teen....its hard...especially if your close to that person....usually,it takes 5 years for someone to recover someones death...get a journal and wirte letters to your grandma,.,and hide your journal so nobody would find it...also,talk to a consolor,,.,,,I know how you feel,,I bet your grandma was a good person....and so are you...and tell your parents how you feel...they are hurting alot too...talk to them...that will help you and your parents.lastly,remember the good things you had with your grandma.God bless and if you need someone to talk to,message me...

Answer 3

I can definitely relate to what you're going through -- this past February, my grandfather died of cancer. Like your grandma, I lived with my grandpa for years -- I had to stay with both my grandparents when my parents were at work as a kid.

There is no specific way to deal with the loss of a loved one. To be completely honest, it's going to hurt for a long time. All you can do is hold onto the memories you have of her, and of all the good times the two of you had. That will, in a way, keep her alive for you, and take some of the pain away.

Also, I've seen firsthand what cancer does to people, and I can assure you your grandmother was in a lot of pain, and endured a lot of suffering. Whether you're religious or not, you can believe she's in a much better place now than where she was before she died.

Anyway, I'm terribly sorry for your loss -- like I said, I went through this, and it's only now, about six months after my grandfather's death, that I'm beginning to except it. I hope the little bit of advice I had to give helped you. :)