How do i let my 11 yr old grow up and start making her own decisions?its breaking my heart.?

Question

shes only 11 and already mensterating isnt that to young?it always hurts my feelings when she acts like she doesnt need me anymore. im starting to get very scared of the teenage years! any advise ,i look at her most of the time and think whos kid are you,i miss my baby.

Answer 1

My daughter is only 8 and I am petrified of the teenage years! From 4 to 8, time just flew. It's going to be painful anyway, it just comes with the territory. Just be there for her and don't get too clingy or overly emotional.

11 does seem very young, is there a non-biological male living in your home? I've read that, for some reason possibly pharamone (sp) related, that girls in a household with a non-bio father enter puberty much sooner.

My daughter already acts like a mini-teenager. What is sad is that it is usually the middle of the night when I think of things I'd like to discuss with her, or things that I feel I need to do regarding her. It's just part of being a loving mother, lots of pain along with the joy.

Answer 2

That is a normal age to mensterate.

You really need to just let her grow up. Don't definately don't baby her, its so annoying. It sucks but she will start to want to hang out with her friends more then you if this has not already happened. You will just have to let it be that way. Thats part of her growing up. Lean how to bond with her at weird times like driving in the car to the mall or something(thats what my mom does with me!) She still really really really  needs you she just wants to become more independant.

Answer 3

I have an 11 year old boy and think the same thing sometimes  !!! although I defiantly think you moms with the girls have it so much worse !!! I don't really think there is anything we can do but let them go !!! we knew they would grow up we just were unaware it would happen this fast !!! but we gotta let them grow whether we want to or not if we don't give them that little bit then eventually they will take it and resent us so all we can do is lead them toward the right path and hope that when they start to go in there own direction that they wont wander to far from the path we set them on !!! good luck and just remember the teenage years will be hard but it will all be worth it on that day when they are older and they tell you Oh my god you were right I should have listened !!!

Answer 4

She isn't a bay anymore, her BODY is turning adult but her brain is not.You will have to TREAT her as a child until she is 18 and old enough to take care of herself financially.

This also means she will be getting horny and wanting to date.Unless your ready to raise grandchildren in your home in the next 7 yrs, the answer to dating is either "you are chaperoned by me or dad or no dates".No going to her bedroom alone with her b/f they stay in the living room.No private phone in her room or internet.You pay attention and realize she is human like any other girl her age and has the same desires.Be strong, authoritative and a parent NOT a "buddy".

Answer 5

11 is not that young.

Answer 6

It's not too early.  My daughter started at 10.  You can't take it personally when your daughter acts that way.  She's doing what she needs to in order to become an adult.

I make sure my daughter and I have some "girl time" regularly.  It keeps us talking and I think helps her remember I'm a person, not just an annoying adult.

Everyone tells me no matter how distant they get, they come back to you when they are older.  I hope they are right!

Answer 7

she is still your baby however she is just growing into a young lady now and you need to talk to her about young adult matters and the consequences of her actions and if she's active in a sport keep her busy so that her friends and the streets wont influence her to do something wrong.

Answer 8

Get a Kitten or a puppy it worked for my mom. She was to busy to stop and think about my not needding her anymore

Answer 9

That isnt too early, girls do that at different ages around that time.. ... she needs you, she is just in that stage where she 'thinks' she doesnt need you. Dont let her make too many discisions, keep her close, keep rules for her. Too many freedoms could lead to bad dicisions on her part. She will thank you later for the things you do during these years. Dont worry, it will be ok.

Answer 10

Hmm... ask her to go shopping or go see a movie sometime. Tell her how you feel. Mother and daughter relationships are important. I am 18 and still me and my mom have our girls night out.

Answer 11

ummmm isn't mensterating when you get your peroid well i got mine when i was 10 try and be the cool mom but keep rules