How do i let my "friends" know that I dont want them throwing parties at my house?

Question

I'm a 19 year old rising college sophomore. Alright these guys I know from high school who i used to hang out with occasionally think my house is nothing but a place to get wasted. I told them that my parents wouldnt be home for the month. (which was a huge mistake) and now they have come to my house three times and have drank a lot of beer and have spilled it all over the floor and have even eaten my food and whatnot. I'm a passive quiet guy so i have a hard time telling these guys to get the **** out of my house and stop thrwoing their little alcohol parties at my place. They threw a party tonight and literally 20-25 people who i didjnt know were at my house drinking/smoking/ acting crazy and it got so out of hand that i left the party to go to my girlfriends house. A guy called me up from the party that was still going on and told me that he wants to have another party on tuesady. What should I do? I dont want any more parties at my house?

Answer 1

Grow a spine and TELL them to stop throwing parties, or else they will continue to assume it's ok.

That and call the cops if they're still not listening to you.

Answer 2

These guys aren't your friends.  Real friends would never EVER trash someone else's home.  These guys have no respect for you or for your parents.  Dump them.  Find yourself a better class of friends before you end up getting pulled into something stupid simply because you don't want to say "no".

Then do yourself a favor and grow a backbone.  "No, guys, no more parties at my house.  Stop asking."  If you need to practice saying that in front of a mirror, then practice.  Tell them no and MEAN IT.  If they show up, DO NOT let them in.  Period and end of story.

This isn't difficult, but it is part of learning how to be a grown-up.  So learn it now, or stay 8 years old forever.

Answer 3

1) They are not your friends.

2) They are stealing things while they're in your house.

3) Your an idiot for letting them in.

Answer 4

Are you ready?  All you have to do is tell them you don't want to have any parties at your house because it always gets wrecked.  People will use you if they think they can.  Im 20 and I know that if a friend has an open pad, we will use and abuse it.  Also, if you feel they are using you, they probably are.  Be strong, tell them no.

Answer 5

lock the door and do not answer it..  that simple..

Answer 6

Just tell them that you don't want parties at your house. Be firm about it. Don't just say no, and then just allow it when they bring people over and throw parties even when you say no.

Answer 7

I find it hard to believe that they aren't your friends and you LEFT YOUR HOUSE with them STILL in it!! Make sure you hold firm to a simple no. You don't need to justify as to why it's your house simple as that. If they cannot respect your wishes call the cops on them. See how they like THAT!!! =)

Answer 8

Stand up to them, or be prepared to face your parents' wrath.  In fact, why not lie and tell them your parents cut their plans short and plan to be home tomorrow night?  I CAN'T believe you let them into your home like that.  I'm passive myself, but there is no way I would let my friends trash my home.  What if they stole your stuff during the party?

Answer 9

They ARE using you. You can do one of two things; (1) Tell them that you don't want to host anymore parties; or (2) Tell them that your grandmother is staying with you and you can't host anymore parties.

Either way, don't allow them to use you. They weren't your friends before, they aren't your friends now, and at the end of the day, they won't care either way WHY you can't have them at their house...they'll just find someone else to leech on.

Answer 10

Just tell them.  Just keep the door locked and don't let them in.  Just keep busy so they can't bother you.

Answer 11

Tell them they can't come anymore. Don't let them in.

Answer 12

They are typical jerks who are just using you for your house! When they come over, don't answer the door no matter what, and keep everything locked! Also maybe you can put a sign on the door that says, "Sorry, no party here!"

Answer 13

tell your friend your not comfortable, with parties at your house.

if he is a friend he will understand.

laney