How do i locate a child placed for adoption when he was four years old and they changed his name .?

Question

How do i locate a child placed for adoption when he was four years old and they changed his name .?

Answer 1

you have to cotact that place

Answer 2

Dear Apple,

Please listen to POSSUM.  She helps so many people find their families.  She is very knowledgeable and you can trust her.  

Good luck in your search:)

Answer 3

If he is now an adult - you can start putting your feelers out in these locations - (I'm assuming you are this child's first/birth parent?!?)

First - add details to the registries here

http://www.isrr.net/

http://registry.adoption.com/

Check for information on your state records here -

http://adopteerights.net/nulliusfilius/?...

Check here for search help - and links to free search angels -

http://www.adoptioncrossroads.org/

All the very best with your search.

ETA: please ignore Miss-doom-and-gloom.

Most adoptees want their birth parents to come looking for them.

She's just an adoption agency troll - or an insecure adoptive parent.

Good luck with the search.

Answer 4

You can't unless a family member or the adoption agency will give you that info. You would have to know his name now and his parents names or something.....the best thing would be to ask around and see if someone else knows something.

Answer 5

well, it depends on the age of the kid and I guess this is foster care situation, actually due to the screwed up social services in the USA, there is a chance the child was never adopted...

it really depends on who is parenting the child now. I know that most agencies that hold custody of the child or deal with the adoption sub will keep and hold anything you send for the child....

Answer 6

Definitely follow Possum's links.  You will learn about the availability of information in the state where the adoption took place, along with some other search resources.

I am reunited and was glad to know that my first family was also searching.  

First parents do not give up all of their rights, nor do they they make a promise to never make contact.  They simply give up their PARENTAL rights and responsibilities.  This means they are no longer the legal parents of the child.  They do not, however, give up their rights as citizens.  They still have all of the same rights as other members of society, including that of free association.

I would venture to say that you gave up your child in hopes that your child would be able to have more than you felt you could offer.  Nothing -- absolutely nothing -- in that action means that the life your child has cannot include knowing you at some point.  Further, you have no idea how your child will feel about knowing you until you reconnect.  Many people don't know about registries, or have been uncertain about trying to search.  Not being on a registry or not having searched doesn't mean that someone would not welcome contact if it is made.  

Answer 7

You don't.

When you place a child in closed adoption you make that child a promise. You promise him your love and strength and you support his family and security.

Go to the registry sites and if the inclination to meet is shared, you will find him. If not, work through your feelings and know that you made a wonderful decision.

Answer 8

Normally, biological parents are not able to get information about a biological child they placed up for adoption.  

Answer 9

Ask the adoption agency he was in.

They probably have records of who adopted who.

Or pray...Maybe one day at the supermarket, you'll meet the kid.  

Answer 10

Suzy Sunshine must come from the dark side of the moon.  Her past answers and questions show that she doesn't care at all about adoptees (in her most recent question, she intimates that there is nothing sad about a child losing his or her family).  She should be ignored.

My first mom was told that most adoptees don't want to be found.  So she didn't search for me.  It was a lie, based on an old, completely misinformed view of adoption.  I would have loved her to come find me.  Instead, we lost precious years together because of people like Suzy Sunshine who only think of themselves and their own wants.

(Miraculously, I have a two adoptive parents I love and with whom I have a good relationship.  You see, unlike some people, adoptees manage to love and care about more than two people in the whole world.  So now I have three parents whom I care about and who are in my life.)

Possum's given you some great resources.  That's where I would start.

Answer 11

If you are in any other Country than the USA, you are entitled to information about your relations.

If you are in the USA there are some antiquaited sealed records laws that inhibit, but luckily don't prevent, the reunion of families.

I think it's so wrong that a mother who carried and gave birth to a child is prevented from knowing what became of that child - ever - even in adulthood.

Please go ahead with the search advice already given here and ignore the fools with agendas who want to perpetuate secrecy in adoption (which, by the way was imposed upon them by the State, and was not a choice)

The same negative answers are given to searching adoptees - so there are those who would seek to do anything to keep families apart forever.  So wrong.

All the best x