How do i lose my "virginitty"?

Question

ok i know how =]

im 14.

im mature for my age.

and not just physically, mentally also.

and, almost every girl in our school lost it at like 12.

that is way too young.

14 cant be that bad. not these days, right?

ive heard stories that if you dont lose it early, you have social problems later in life.

and stories that if you wait too long, like in you 20s, its awkward and uncomfortable.

but my boyfriend is 15 & very experienced.

im 14 and have none pretty much , but am thinking about letting

him after a couple months.

how long do you think i should make him wait?

Answer 1

5 more years!!!

Answer 2

The stories you have heard about having social problems later in life are wrong.  In fact, it's more the opposite.  Having s*x too early is likely to cause more social problems for you, in that you may lose self respect, and others may see you as "easy", and treat you with less respect from their end.  An adult woman will have grown through all of the things that teenagers have to deal with, and will know herself well enough to be comfortable saving herself for the right man.

There is also no additional discomfort if you wait until later on.  Again, more than likely, the opposite is true.  Chances are, the first time will be uncomfortable, no matter how old you are, but being really prepared mentally (which involves getting past the teenage years) will allow a woman to be more physically ready.

14 is way too young.  I'm tempted to say that you should dump your 15-year old boyfriend who is "very experienced", but just because he has had s*x, doesn't mean he's not a good guy, so I won't judge him based on that one fact.

I think you should wait until you know you're with someone who truly loves you, and who would therefore be willing to wait until you're married.  I'm not saying you have to wait until you're married...I'm just saying that a man who really loves you would have enough respect for you, that he would be willing to wait for that, and wouldn't lose respect for you if you weren't ready.

Also, having s*x because he wants to, and "letting him" isn't the right reason.  Having s*x just because you're full of hormones is also not the right reason.  s*x is supposed to be about intimacy.  You should share the hidden parts of your mind and soul, before you share the hidden parts of your body.  

The average duration of a teenage romance is 4 months.  Keep that in mind when you're thinking about giving up your precious commodity...If you're 3 months into a relationship, it's likely that you're about to break up, so you may want to hold off a little longer.

Last but not least...your boyfriend, at 15, is just that - a boy.  He may have had s*x before, but I can almost guarantee that it wasn't good.  I firmly believe that it would be worth your while to wait for a man (not a boy), who has the self control and desire to pleasure you, before he takes care of himself.

Answer 3

you are not allowed to lose it until you can spell it.

Answer 4

If you honestly want to live life saying, "oh, yeah, I lost my virginity at the age of 14." then go right ahead. Just think realisticly. You're most likely not going to be with this guy for the rest of your life.

Answer 5

Personally i dont think you should lose it for maybe one to two years at least..everyone has their right time..but if u want it to be with him then i say make him wait a long while to see how long it lasts.

Answer 6

Until you are ready and he is worthy.

Answer 7

well i think that ur to young to be having s*x! u may think that ur mature now but u still much more to learn about life. Ive never heard that if u don't lose it that u have social problems. this is coming from someone that has had a bad experience with the first time. i thought this boy was a nice boy we meet at church! i introduced him to my parents and he would come over to my house and so after a few months we tried. i was 15 about 2 weeks form 16. then about a few days later he became more distance from me....he wasn't even with me for my bday! then he called me saying he had a gift for me so i let him over and it turns out all he wanted was s*x! that's all i was to him. it was very hard to admit. ive never told anyone how the experience was expect my husband not even my best friends know! now that i am married i think that its a very intamite act that u do with someone u love very much and that it is best to wait. even if it  is for a few more years! enjoy being a teenager! u have the rest of ur life to be an adult! if he loves u he will wait!

Answer 8

just because everybody else does it   doesnt mean u hav to do it...im also 14 but im not that worried about i mean i can get it anytime but i choose not to..b smart and when ur finally ready do it its ur decision at what age...if u want it now and ur responsible and u r sure u can do it then do it but use protection!!!!

Answer 9

I say make him wait

Answer 10

losing your virginity is not a contest.  it doesn't matter what age you are and it doesn't make you a weirdo to wait as long as you want.  it's up to you, and only you.  just don't feel pressured, do it when you're ready, preferably if you're in love, but at the very least make sure you use protection.