How do i make friends in high school?

Question

well last year in 8th grade i faced rejection and it hurt eventually i got friends but now high school is starting i dont want to have go through that again so how do i know the right people are?

Answer 1

BE YOUR SELF

Tou BETTER BE COOL

Answer 2

the people who like to hang around you are the right people. just be yourself and you will find people who like you! don't try to be someone your not.

Answer 3

Join Join Join.

Join any and all clubs/sports you can. I joined Drama, Soccer, International league, & some class spirit club I don't remeber the name of. I went to school dances and football games. I got invited to several Parties and asked If could bring a couple of friends, Of course they said "yes."  I had friends from Jr high and a whole bunch pof new ones.

Ironically, I gave up most of the extracurricular stuff to spend most of my time with all of the friends I made. I wish I hadn't.

Answer 4

Be yourself...coming to high school from 8th grade is a MAJOR step...im going to be a senior this year and I still remember how nervous I was...rejection comes as you grow up...just remember that it's NOT your fault it's their problem...if that happened to you thank your lucky stars because you don't want to be friends with people like that, (you can do so mucu better)...my 2 best freinds that I've had since I was 2 just rejected me... I cried it out try to talk to them and now haven't talked since March...Just remember to be open to change and to welcome everybody...because high school has a lot more "social groups".  I became freinds with someone from each of these "groups"...Just don't shut anybody down and just remember to be yourself!  Good Luck in 9th grade!

Answer 5

This happened to me too. It took me a while, but I just made new Friends, mostly people who seemed really nice. You have to realize that your old Friends being mean has nothing to do with you. It's their problem.

Answer 6

I'm not really in the same situation, but most of my friends, that I had all through middle school are now going to a different school than I am. I'm super scared, but I've realized that sometimes you just have to take risks. Like, on the first day in class, try to sit around more than one person, and talk. (No I don't mean just start in conversation.) Like ask them if their scared about high school. Or (if your a girl) talk about how cute the senior guys are (which they will be.) I've notices that everyone, even nerds find friends.

So basically, just be social, confident, and TRY to talk to some people. You just have to keep talking and then you can see who will or will not be a good person to hang with.

Answer 7

Well, I always made friends by asking if they wanted to smoke a j after school. But I don't recommend that.

Be yourself. You will be much more satisfied with the quality of friends you find. And ultimately its the quality, and not quantity, of friends that matters.

Answer 8

hi..well you are a lot older than me ..maybe 3years ..but it is just like middle school  and elementary school well first just wait till you see if they are nice or not ...see how they are acting,dress,and if it seem you like that person go up to them and say hi..also it should be a freshment too..and introduce them to you...ask if you are in the same class talk to each other sit with them in lunch.also sit with people who are lonely.ask them to be your friend.ask for their phone numbers,aim,emails and talk,let them go to your home..tell secrets!!!! you are like me..i am starting middle school and i am doin g the thing i said to you!good luck

Answer 9

Anyone who hurts ur feelings .. intentionally is some1 to stay away from..

Anyone who can listen to ur problems n make u do wats right and what feels right is an awesome friend

Be yourself..yup totally.. anyone who can accept you the way u r is a true friend

Someone who's fun but knows where to draw the line for u and her  is totally rad

u dont gotta be awfully cool or anything to make friends.. n dont let ur fear of rejection kp u frm getting friends!

Answer 10

Just introduce yourself to other kids. Be yourself. Don't be nervous and you'll be just fine. You don't really know who the "right" people are unless you speak to them. Judging books by their covers won't do, but kids usually do it anyway. Or they could talk to other people about someone. For example, In some of my classes on like the first day of school, we had to introduce ourselves with simple facts like what hobbies we had or sports we participate in so people have some sort of understanding of who you were. Good luck to you.

Answer 11

Here's the brutal truth: 8th graders don't know how to be good friends. They barely know how to be bad friends. Don't expect a lot from high schoolers, though some will surprise you.

Friendship takes time. It starts with meeting someone. Just be open to everyone, jock to punk to skin to flirt to nerd. We all have something of value in our friendships.

I went through a LOT of hurt all through high school, and it got easier as soon as I realized that hey, I'm going to college, some of these jokers aren't, and I'm going to start over there with people who are more mature and more serious about what they do. And I was right - college was a blast. I made so many friends there. I met my wife as she was finishing college, when we were both in our 20's and mature enough to actually be friends to each other.

So that's in the future, what about now?

Well, for starters, be real and be yourself. Don't pretend to be someone you're not. If you feel shy, don't force yourself to talk. If you're talkative, don't force yourself into silence.

It is easier to meet people by asking them questions. People LOVE to talk about themselves. I knew a guy who could get any girl's phone number (and usually a date). His trick? He said very little about himself. And he was a great guy, mind you, but he let the girl talk first, and her talk as much as she wanted. He would participate enough to be interested in the conversation, and she would be flattered by that. But he wouldn't tell much about himself until he had this other person thinking he really wanted to talk to them. Then, on the date, in the one-to-one situation he did well in, he'd be more participative in the conversation.

Join groups, or find social situations where you're comfortable. It took me a while to realize that, even though my parents liked it, I didn't get along with the people in my church youth group. They were their own clique - mostly cheerleaders and athletes. I'm not athletic, and I'm not competitive. I didn't fit in there.

Still, I remember when one of the cheerleaders offered to drive me home from youth group, and we sat in my driveway and just talked for like 20 minutes. It wasn't anything but the start of a friendship - and when we got to class on Monday, she didn't talk to me again. Yeah, taht hurts. It's rejection, and it's stupid. Thing is, when you're about 25 or 26, people start reconnecting on like Facebook or randmonly on the train to work.

How do you know who the right people are? This is where you have to take a risk. You have to open yourself up a bit, and if you get rejected, shame on them. They saw you and decided not to accept you, and its their loss. You'll meet people like that throughout your life.

Good luck in high school. Don't let them get to you. High school is meant to be survived, more than anything.