How do i make my 5 year old stop lying?

Question

I can't seem to get my youngest son to stop lying i have tried EVERYTHING punishment, talking to him explaining why it is not good to lie and he will sit and lie to our faces..That is bad enough but now he is also saying really hurtful things like he doesn't care if it makes my husband and i sad or he doesn't care about us. I don't know what to do about this issue. He knows he is lying and isn't making up outlandish stories or confused about reality and fantasy. My husband doesn't seem to think it is a big deal but i see the potential problems in the future am i overeacting or justified in being concerned?

Answer 1

Try lying to him (about small things). For example, promise him a nice treat like ice cream or cookies, then don't give it to him. Maybe he'll realize how it makes people feel when they are lied to.

Answer 2

With one of mine - it was about getting attention (as the youngest, she wanted everything the others had) and wanting to avoid getting in trouble.  She convinced herself that we would be really angry when we found out the truth....so we had to work hard to convince her that nothing she says or does will ever keep us from loving her.  We gave examples, i.e. we'd be disappointed if she stole, she'd have consequences, and we'd still love her.

She is now 10.  In the past 5 years, she has gone from lying just about every day to maybe once a month, if that.  The last time it was over "borrowing" something from her older sister.  I made her write "I will not lie" 20 times, apologize to her sister and me, told her she made a poor choice, said we still love her and gave her a hug.

Try to get your husband to get on board with being consistent with your son.  My husband would say, please tell me the truth.  I will be disappointed but I will not get angry or yell, and I will still love you.

Blessings

Answer 3

i think u should tell him that his nose is ganna start growing. like pinochio.

Thats wat we tell my little cusin who is 6 and then she tells the truth. Yeah, so u should tell him that and if it doesnt work then u can like if ur religous that gods ganna get mad at himor something. Idk

I hope i helped!

Bye<3