How do i make my son sit on potty?

Question

my almost 2 year old son refuses to sit on his potty instead he will cart around the house and use it as a toy, i have since bought a different one that looks nothing like the old but he again refuses to sit down and wont use the big toilet if i help him. He knows what a wee and p**p are but wont say anything unless he hasnt got bottoms on. HELP ME! toilet train

Answer 1

Sounds like what hes doing is normal before potty training starts.

I would finish letting him get familiar with it. Then maybe at 3 years old or in a few months try getting him to try sitting on it.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Don't pressure him -- especially if he is strong-willed.  I started my daughter too early -- at 2 also.  She would sit on the potty occasionally - and even peed a few times, but she didn't potty train until SHE was ready at 3 and a half.  Then, it happened quickly... with little fuss.

Every child goes in his or her own time.  The more stubborn they are, the longer they will hold out if you force them.  Give him a break and try again in 3 or 4 months --

What's that old saying?... "You can lead a toddler to the potty,  but you cannot make him pee?"

Answer 4

Well, I would buy a huge bag of skittles or M&M's and say everytime you pee or poo in the toilet I will give you one...or two depending how much motivation you have to give him. When he pees if your having him sit or stand, try to get him to shoot the cheerio...(just put one in the toilet before he goes to the bathroom) make it a game! Good luck..and it does get better...

Answer 5

Please don't worry. This sounds completely normal. I have recently read a book called potty training and it said something very interesting.... for most kids, according to experts (the modern ones, not the 70 yr old grannies!) will tell you if you start training your child at 12 months old, he will be trained by the age of 3, if you start training at the age of 3, he will still be trained by the age of 3. Therefore the secret is don't make a big deal out of it. He will be trained when he is ready.

A midwife told me I should only start training my child when he is able to tell me BEFORE he wants to do a poo or wee, not after. Only then the child is completely ready and toilet training will be pretty much pain free for both of you.

The best thing to do is let him watch you and even better if there's a male figure available when you are on the toilet. In time when he knows the sensation he will want to do the same.

Don't worry. My daughter did the same to me. I just waited until she's ready. Boys will take longer to toilet train than girls. So this is normal.

Remember don't rush and don't give up. If he doesn't want to do it now try again in a couple of months time. If you think again going to the toilet is a hard task for a toddler. He will first have to know the feeling, then he has to be able to sit on the potty on his own, pull up and down his pants.... it's a big job for a little kid.

I don't know which part of Australia you're from but here in NSW it's pretty cold here now I wouldn't want to toilet train myself if I was a child!!! LOL.

Good Luck!!

Answer 6

Most boys aren't ready to potty-train until they are 2 1/2 or so.  I wouldn't push it.  Give him time and let him cart the potty around for a few months.  Totally normal.  He's showing interest and that's the first step.  Good luck! :)

Answer 7

I agree with most people that you shouldn't pressure him.My 2 year old isn't potty trained and we are not stressed by it because we know once she wants to do it on a potty she will.

Answer 8

Ok, well...  it's all about conditioning.

What you have to do, it make him learn that going to the potty is a good thing, and that using it as a toy, is a bad thing.

With children this can be quite simple.

Show him a lollie.

Now he only gets a lollie when he behaves on the potty, and does not use it as a toy.

Make sure that you do not cave in and give him a lollie if he does not sit on the potty, if he refuses to sit on the potty, he misses out on the lollie for that day, and you try again tomorrow.

Continue this process, and soon you will see improvements.

The next step, is to only occasionally award him for going to the potty. This is so he does not know when he will be getting a reward for going to the potty, and this will motivate him more to go to the potty every time, instead of knowing that no matter when he goes to the potty he will get a lollie.

You can read up on these kind of things, google conditioning for potty training, there is bound to be more solutions to your problem.

Answer 9

in all honesty i'm not going to lie. I put my two year old's potty in front of the tv, turned on his favorite and out of no where he sat on it as if it was a chair and low and behold he got so distracted by the show he started to use the potty....and has ever since. BUT he has a phobia, if you will, of pull-ups and big boy undies. he'll only use the potty if you let him run around with a naked butt. my theroy is, use whatever works. my oldest did it himself. something clicked and he always used the big potty no training potty and we never had any issues or accidents. but you go with the flow until you find something that works. rewards, bribes, distraction.......whatever works. just keep trying unti lyou find something that gets his attention and that will work for him. every child is different and every child is on a different time line. in the end when he's ready he'll let you know eventually. all you can do is just keep trying. Also with both of our boys, they ALWAYS followed my husband and i to the potty to watch. To learn from example. my 2 year old also follows his big brother to watch him too now. one more example to see.

Answer 10

do you own a fishing rod?? put loolies on the end of it hang it above the potty and say if he sits down he get some lollies if he does something he gets more lollies soon he will go to the toilet keep trying that.. it worked for me when i was little and i did the same thing to my little bro..

Answer 11

I'm soooo going to get a thumbs down for this BUT the kids using the following methods are teens or old adults now and they have no ill side effects:

1st one (this is SO horrible, but worked) my friend had twins and by 2 (a boy and a girl) she was so tired of diapers she had it.  

The kids were really afraid of bugs on their own...so she told  them that now they we're BIG boys and girls the bugs can smell them and might try to get in their diapers.

They were trained within 3 days (at 36, her son's a police chief and her daughter's a college professor both with families of their own....they did OK.)

Other advice  is from a friend who has very normal 13 and 17 year olds...keep them naked for a week.  They HATE the mess on them (u can only do this with tile or hard wood I guess)

Within a day or two they learn how not to "make a mess."

At 2ish, if they don't have problems, they can 'get it.'

Answer 12

Best way to get him to learn to sit is to try not to make a big deal about it. When your in the bathroom using it yourself, just have him sit on the potty (opened or closed for now) and read him some stories while he sits there. He's still pretty young, my daughter didn't truly potty train until about almost 3. Try out some of the potty training tapes (Elmo has one) that talk about listening to your body and everything involved with using the potty. He should be able to remove his pants and diaper by himself before expecting him to actually use the potty. We all are in such a hurry to get them trained (for our own ease), your just going to have to accept that this is one thing that just can't be rushed. Give him some time, encourage him with talking about the potty, reading to him on the potty and lots of praise for trying and doing. good luck.

Answer 13

He's obviously not ready yet. Don't "make" him do anything potty-related or it won't work well at all.   Not 2 is early for potty training anyway..  Just talk about it and read books about it, and try again in a few monthsl