How do i make things less awkward between us physically? (eg, I had to ask him for a hug goodnight :/)?

Question

I'm not above asking for relationship advice on yahoo answers, especially considering im extremely inexperienced, and my friends laugh at me. This is all going to sound rather pathetic.

Ok, so im 16, and this guy i've been on like 4 dates with still has not kissed me. We've hugged three times and help hands twice ( i had to practically grab his hand the first time, twas'nt subtle). Anyway, im actually a very awkward and shy person, and he's the opposite, he's very loud and confident and funny, but he still hasn't initiated any kissing... or much of anything really. I'm usually the one who goes to hug him goodbye. This is not normal, im sure. Do you think its because we have no chemistry or something? Should i give up... our first date was like 6 weeks ago :/

How would you suggest i move the physical side of this relationship along a bit? I need ideas, im sick of anticipation. I'm also not really confident enough to initiate.

Kthanks :D

Answer 1

well, maybe he can sense that you're very awkward and shy and that's why he isn't doing anything. maybe he thinks that if he does kiss you/do anything else physical, you might freak out.

but if you've had 4 dates over 6 weeks, it sounds like there might not be much of an attraction and you should, err, move on or whatever.

Answer 2

dont ask for it just do it if he doesnt like it then he will back up

Answer 3

Ummm just b the girl that u r and just give him time im sure he will kiss u but dont force him he wont like that.

Answer 4

Im shy too, soi understand how it is. Just take a deep breath and jsut give him a hug. And initate something if you can get the courage. Worst thing that could happen is he pulls away.. not a big deal.

Answer 5

well he probably doesnt think you're comfortable with kissing so if i were you id hint it, try to flirt a  lot to send him the messege.

make sure he actually likes you, and its not just you forcing the relationship.  

Answer 6

Ok at 16 the MAX of your social life should not progress beyond 'kissing'... But I would say if your are sure he likes you then just kiss him see what happens, if he has a funny look on his face, MOVE ON! Then hes not into you. If he starts to kiss back, then you're in!

Answer 7

You are not lame you are only 16!!  give it time, If nothing else, he may just sense you are a little shy and he is being a gentlemen and waiting for you to make the first moves! Obviously he likes you or you wouldn't be going out, have confidence girl!!!  If it feels right to you, go for it, what do you have to lose?

Answer 8

Maybe he doesn't want to?

You guys are only 16 and on your 4th date....give it time.

Answer 9

Don't kiss you are too young .. Besides his g/f says he cannot kiss LOL....lol.... just be friends and 1 day you will be best friends . !

Answer 10

grow some balls ( figerativly ) and kiss him. full on the lips. if it dosnt work then at least you can say you had the courage to do summat about it, unlike him. good luck

Answer 11

i dont think hes interested..

Answer 12

how does he act the rest of the evening ? does he put his arm around you at all?

does he just treat you like a good friend ?  

both of you are young and boys are very immature, so maybe he doesnt really want to kiss you yet ! or is afraid that he wont be a good kisser...

4 dates in 6 weeks isnt much, but like i said, you guys are young.  What exactly are you looking for at this age ?

Perhaps if it is much more than a good guy friend, he may not be able to supply it.