How do i make time for all my kids?

Question

i have 3 kids on my own and i just feel like they dont get enough of the attention they deserve and they never get any alone time with me. i have no help no family no sitters its just me but i want my kids to feel loved. there just doesnt seem to be enough hours in the day to do all i need to do let alone give them the quality time they need and attention....for example my 3 year old doesnt get to go swimming or to the playground because i have a 16month old and 4 month old......i feel like a bad mother but i try my hardest. any help as to how i can get them the attention they deserve

Answer 1

get a sitter...a regular one. Then have her/him sit with 2 while you have mommy and me time with the 3rd child, just rotate. You aren't a bad mother.

Answer 2

Kids don't need much time alone with you and it's not realistic. I'm sure you give them as much attention as you can, and they must be happy with that. That's life, you can't have more than there is of anything! If you pay attention to them regularly throughout the day, they will know you love them. Try taking them to playgroup or something. That's appropriate for all three ages. No mother is perfect, and no kid is born expecting it.

Answer 3

You sound like you are giving them the attention they deserve. As mother's we all feel like we fail in some areas. Don't be so hard on yourself. No one ever complained that they didn't get to go swimming when they were three years old!! You want the best for your kids, I understand that, but by talking negative to yourself you aren't helping the situation. Just love those babies and talk to them all the time. That's all they need and want at this age. You should enjoy this time with your little ones, they are completely in love with you right now. Embrace it. They grow up too fast.

Answer 4

Even though i have only one child, i use to do child care in my home in which i would have several children.  One thing you can do is when you put the younger children down for a nap use part of their nap time to spend with your 3yr old. Do something special such read a book, color or paint a picture,  or play a  quiet type of game it doesn't have to be much but tell your 3 yr old that this your time with mommy and that you love him or her very much (this special time goes a long way). You could do this for maybe 20 - 30 minutes before you  put your 3 yr old down for a nap.  And when all else fails ask a friend or a neighbor that you trust to help you out once in a while to maybe keep an eye on the other two.  But in NO WAY are YOU  A BAD MOTHER, any time that you spend with them is special time.   I see children every day that may not spend any quality with their mother because their mothers don't care. Your children are blessed to have a mother that cares the way you do.

Answer 5

I have 9 kids (two in the NICU, and one stepdaughter)....you have it easy. =]

Answer 6

I know how hard it is as I have 2 boys that are under a year apart and I am a solo parent family as well.. You are not a bad mum so dont ever think that.

As they get older it will get a bit easier but in the mean time get a sitter and have fun with your kids 1 at time .

Start with taking your eldest child out once a week even if its just for an hour ...

Then you ca give all your kids a turn to have mummy time.

When your 2 youngest are asleep sit with your eldest and read him/her a story it only takes 5 mins and  he/her will love it . Well mine do anyway..

Hope this helps ...

Good luck hun ...