How do i overcome this social anxiety? please helpp!?

Question

ok well its not to a really bad point but im new at school and if someone talks to me ill talk to them in class or whatever but i still have no friends and its been 2 weeks. how do i ask someone if i could hang out with them or sit with them at lunch? why am i so afraid to do it? but its killing me i hate being alone

Answer 1

Try this. Hi my name is .......I was wondering if you could help me with something? (pause) WAIT FOR ANSWER,THEN START A CONVERSATION  about something.then at the end say,listen I'm new here and maybe we could hang out sometime.Do you have room in your life for a new friend?If so how about getting something to eat later on,I'll meet you at ....

I bet the answer will be yes.

Try it.

Answer 2

I used to be the fat kid at school, no one likes the fat kid!

i had and continue to have a heap of friends!

Stop letting the fear you have stop you from approaching someone and asking if you can sit with them!  Ultimately, the worst they can say to you is NO!

You are in school so there will be kids there you should be able to hang with!  The best way i used was to try and see what things they were interested in that i was too.  it helped to build the common ground you need to make friends!

Take a leap of faith and trust that you are worthy of having friends!  You will succeed at this believe me!  Loneliness is the pits, but, have a look around and just by seeing what the others are up to will give you an idea on whether you think you could be around them!  

Try it!  ask them if you can sit with them, you may be surprised!

Answer 3

It's not easy trying to make new friends and the time span you are describing is not unusual.  

If you're finding it hard to go and sit with someone, why don't you try and make plans with someone before lunch.  At the end of class or something, ask him or her to keep you a spot at lunch.  Or how about you going quickly to lunch period and when you see someone you know, ask them to join you.  Tip:  Ask the person with whom you are the most comfortable.  The rest should just fall into place.

Good luck

Answer 4

It's tough to be new.  I stayed within the same school district my whole k-12 life, and I started every year being afraid I'd have to sit by myself at lunch.

My advice to you is to check out the tables in the caf and look for the nicest person you've met so far.  Don't worry if they are popular or not, just nice and not so dorky they annoy you.  Then walk up with your lunch and say "Is it okay if I sit here?"

No nice person is going to say no!!!  Once you've sat there once, you don't have to ask any more...you've got yourself a new lunch table.  You only have to put yourself on the line that one time.  You can do that!

Remember to ask people about themselves or to give you advice on good places to eat or shop, the best movie theater, etc.  People love to talk about themselves and love to give advice and maybe someone will offer to go to one of these new places with you.

Good luck!