How do i prove my ex is abusive and doing drugs?

Question

i have been sober for 3 years from alcohol. my ex now has custody of our ten year old. he used to beat me when we were together and it's a terrible fate that i caused for our child to be with him. he still uses drugs and our child told me that . he is dating one of our child's teachers and they break up so much and bounce our child from each other's home. my child recently told me that he hits his girlfriend in front of our child and our child has to break up the fights. he puts our child's face to his butt and farts , he swears at our child and his girlfriend and verbally abuses me on the phone. we are going through court, i'm wanting more access as he's not allowing me time with our child very often.right now i have alternate weekends and thursday nights. he doesn't answer my calls on days he has our child so i don't get phone time. i just told our child's school councillor about the abuse and she spoke to my child. how do i prove it's going on in court?

Answer 1

ask if your shild can be a whitness at court

Answer 2

Unless you have actual evidence you may not be able to prove it. Are you SURE your child is telling the truth? Not accusing your  child of anything but kids who have been put through a period of instability often act out. Putting the child`s face to his butt and farting smacks to me of something a 10 year old would say rather than something that actually happens. But I am not sure as I can imagine some addicts in my own extended family who might do something like that too.

Write everything down in a notebook you purchase only for this purpose. Date and what your child reported to you.

Can you get your child a prepaid cell phone so you can call the child directly and the child can also call you outside the house if needed?  If this is all true I think the school counselor can help you.

The girlfriend is a teacher? Can you call her and simply say you wish you knew more about your child`s life with Dad and ask for her observations? If you develop a rapport with your conversation could you maybe gently ask if he hits her?

As a teacher she might have some empathy for your child and even allow you to phone the child when at her house.

You kept using ``my child`` rather than he or she so I have no idea the gender of your child. Not that this matters with the treatment but a girl might be able to bond with the girlfriend/ teacher better than a boy and get an ally.

Can your own addiction counselor or AA sponsor or someone help you? If you still go to counseling at a counseling center you could see if they would recommend family counseling for you and the kid as part of integrating back into the kid`s life.

Be well and persevere. I hope the court follows through sooner.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

You need to put hidden cameras or have neighbors keep a watchful eye. You may not want people in your business- But its for the sake of your children. Both of you are hurting them emotionally, and it will affect them when they get older.

Answer 5

have him take a pee test

Answer 6

Have your child testify in court.  Hearsay (repeating what your child told you) is not admissable in family court.  Unless you witnessed the abuse and have proof, (photographs, recordings etc), the only thing you can do is have your child testify.  This might be done by going through a mediator who will try to get a closed session with only the child and the judge.  You will have to discuss this with your lawyer.

Answer 7

1. Witnesses. Always bring someone with you to witness all transactions.

2. Demand random drug tests through the court.

3. Photographs. Bring your camera every time you two exchange children.

4. Document everything that happens, with receipts, dates, times, and all the detail you can think of.

And above all, save up for a better attorney. You need to get your child back. If you are not withholding information here, then this is a slam-dunk case for a half-decent attorney.

Good luck!

Answer 8

First of all, bless you for being sober for 3 years.  Please continue this and be a good role model for your son.  

I don't understand how this happened - how the court gave him custody when he does these things.  Your son will have to testify and of course you need a lawyer, no matter how expensive it is.  It's for your son's well being.

Answer 9

Get a lawyer NOW. It will be hard, but put your son on the stand and have him testify. Then request random drug testing.

Answer 10

um pictures hidding cameras or witnesses