How do i raise a little girl's self esteem?? she is 10 years old.?

Question

for her to do better at school.....and to not be so shy in front of people??

Answer 1

Help her to remember who she is.

I say this because it worked on me, and now it's working on my daughters :)

Have a discussion with her, about who she is, what your family's belief system is, if that includes a relationship with your choice of God, then explain her importance to God.

Every morning as she leaves for school, when you hug her, and tell her you love her...  Say, "Remember who you are"

Say it every single morning, and every time she walks away from you to go somewhere.

It will plant in her a belief in who she is, where  she is going in life, and her reason for being here in the first place.

Nothing can be better for a girl than knowing that she is loved, and that she has a purpose.  Once a girl knows her parents and God love her, with out draw back, no one else's unkind opinions will hold much weight with her, and you will watch her become a shining example of integrity.

Answer 2

Try enrolling her in a drama camp for the shyness thing.  Let her tap into her inner diva.  Try taking her on a shopping spree and a girls day out.   Have a meeting with her teacher to see if she can give her lots of encouragement.

If she isn't doing well at school and frustrated, I would see about getting an after school tutor to help her out.  Just seeing good grades and that she can accomplish her goals will help raise that self esteem alot!

Answer 3

My 10 year old also was showing signs of low self esteem and started having lower grades then her previous years. I recently took her out for some one on one time doing what she loves (yeah shopping lol) which gave us time to talk. FIrst small talk and then deeper talk. I found out that she has actually been having problems with a girl at school which is the reason thngs have been different with her but she didnt want to tell anyone because she didnt want it to get worse or for people to laugh at her.  Me as a mother first off felt like I have been failing as a mother because I have 5 kids altogether (recently on Feb 7th having twins) I felt I haevnt paid eough attention or one on one that I should have known.  Then I talk to her more about it and we figured out a plan of both of us talking with her teacher and seeing about getting that issue to stop but also sending home some practice things that wouldnt count against her to help at home so that she would boost her self esteem again knowing she could do it. We now are setting aside time each week with just me and her to talk about things and hang out. Also getting her more involved in things..SO I guess I woudl recommend finding out what the underneath problem is first and going from there. Unsure about your thoughs on religion but getting my 10 year old involved in a kids church with positive kids her age are helping as well.  I also have been focusing more on givng more positve comments even for small things that she does well. A littel compliment goes a long ways. Good luck

Answer 4

I enrolled my daughter in dance class and that has helped her so much.  She has been in class for three years now and not afraid to speak out at all.  I encourage her in whatever she shows an interest in no matter what it is.

Answer 5

Tell her she's sexay!  jk, of course.  Sorry, I really have no idea.

Answer 6

Maybe stop beating her... Or did you already stop?

Answer 7

Try talking to her and maybe she can tell you why she feels the way she feels about her self. Then knowing what the true problem is you can help her grow toward loving herself and appreciating herself. When she appreciates herself more she will want to do better at school or open up in front of people. Then again, she could be an introvert. And she may possibly have a learning disability. I would say have a sit down and let her open up to you about what is really going on.

Answer 8

I think that lots of verbal encouragement is a good place to start, but ultimately she needs to have positive experiences.  Most kids have something that they're good at or enjoy doing.  If she hasn't found that thing yet, help her figure it out. (music, art, math, swimming) Whatever it is, if you can help foster some really great experiences that will help her gain confidence.  Also, if she gets involved in an activity she will meet other kids who she will have something in common with.  Hopefully she'll feel confident and comfortable talking with other kids who share her interests.