How do i relinquish my parental rights? in IL

Question

my ex girlfriend has sole custody of our 6 year old son, i live 3 hours away from them, i see him around 3 times a year, my court order is that i can see him every other weekend, but since we life 3 hours away i can't see him that offten, anyway for the past 3 years my wife and I have been having serious problems with my so, and now it has gotten to the point where he is making up lies against my wife and I serious lies, i have another young child with my wife and i am scared he is going to end up making up a lie one of the days and getting us in big truble, he lies non stop, i have 0 control of anything that happens with him when he is not with me, and his mother does no cooperate with me at all. so i am at he point where i think it would be for the best safety of my family if i relinquish my rights to him, my question is, what all do i need to do to do this? and will i still have to pay child support?

Answer 1

talk with a family law attorney

Answer 2

Go to your local Courthouse. Most likely you will need an attorney! I don't think you can do this on your own. This has to be done through family court. You might have to pay, after all he is your seed! But you might be able to arrive at an agreement w/ the Mother. But I'm pretty sure you will need a lawyer. But who knows...maybe it only takes a few sheets of paper that you can file in family court yourself...google.com (search on 'give up parental rights'

Answer 3

As far as the child support question Yes! I know this because I was only 17 when I had my first son. The father said he did not want his rights. I know he did this only to not pay child support.What the courts did was made him get a dna test. He was the father. I got his right relinquished and my son is now 6 and he gets his checks garnished and if he dosent have a job he get warrants for his arrest. He has no say so in seeing my son at all. The only way you will not have to pay for child support is lets say your ex gets married and he husband adopts him, You will no longer have to pay again (unless its back pay). To get relinquished rights. You find an attorney to file the papers. Your ex will get served with these papers stating what you want to do. She will then have a choice, she can do nothing and then after 30 days if she doesn't go to the courts and try and fight it then thats your parental rights are gone (but remember all this means is you have no say so and you can no longer see him if she dosent allow and no more visits but you still have to pay.)Or She can go to the courts to fight it then you will have a hearing and a judge will have to decide. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 4

Termination of parental rights has to be approved by a judge.  Generally speaking they will not approve voluntary termination unless it’s for the purpose of adoption (because they do not feel it’s in the best of a child to leave them fatherless).  

And a judge wouldn’t even consider approving it on the basis that the child is difficult to handle and he lies.  In fact, the judge would likely admonish you for even attempting to do that.  Parents don’t have the right to walk away from their children because they’re ‘bad’.  

With that said you don’t have to take advantage of your visitation rights.  A court will not force you to visit the child.  Although frankly, even if my child were the devil reincarnated, I don’t think I’d ever give up on him, but if you feel your family is in danger because of the lies….  

However, even without any custodial or visitation rights, you will still have to pay child support.