How do i shake the fear??

Question

I had a terrible thing happen in my family involving murder...my little brother 23 stabbed my younger 24 yr old brother in his sleep. He has a mental disorder no one knew about....anyway, I am terrified to be alone in my house and am scared of the dark. I know its irrational to think my bro would ever get out and come after me but i cant shake the feeling. I have a big house and there are lots of rooms. How do you shake off irrational fears??? Or does anybody really know the answer to this question.

Answer 1

wow im sry

thats terrible

im a paranoid person too

but if i was in your situation i would try to go and get some help

see a therapist

Answer 2

definitely talk to a therapist.

you cant do this on your own, or with "yahoo answers"

Answer 3

if he's in a mental institute, probably nothing will happen. if hes not..

Answer 4

Being that he has this condition i would just move out or make him go to an institution...the only way u can be safe is this way..

Answer 5

Get a room mate (who you trust as to not make it worse) or take some overcoming your fears classes. you should google it they really work

Answer 6

I would talk to a therapist.

Answer 7

oh thats so sad im sorry.. i dont know what you could do i would be scared too. try to find someone and tell them about it.

Answer 8

Best thing to do to beat you fear is to confront it. I know that that is what everybody says, but it honestly works.

Answer 9

I am sorry that this happened to you. When I am scared I call my friends, listen to music, and use inscent candles.

Also see a therapist, I went to one and they helped me through my troubles.

I hope that everything goes well.

Answer 10

OMG. that is really terrible. If that hapepend to me .. o m g i would freak out i wouldnt be able to go to sleep :'( that just makes me feel like crying .. i have no clue what you could do.. maybe you should try to get a lock on your door & when you go to sleep lock it so you feel safe. thats all i could think of .. or you could move out like the others said lol :) & confront him ask him if he would ever do that to you .. it would probably make you feel better knowing he said that he wouldnt lol :)

Answer 11

If you are afraid of the dark try to find comfort with people around you. Try installing night lights in your room and an intruder alarm. Maybe a pet will help, like a lab, they are good guard dogs. Attend a couple therapy classes. It might help.

Hope it helps

Answer 12

You don't get over your fears by babying them.  But by facing them.

Turn on the lights and go from room to room.

When you're done, you should tell yourself to feel safe, as you know there's no one in the house.

Be logical and rational instead of just EMOTIONALL!!!!!!!!

Answer 13

paint your house yellow this will keep the high happy spirit in you up and wont really help but it makes it less dark.....  haha i have no clue but this isnt that great an idea so dont do it unless u have some paint laying around   :-)  

P.S. he is coming for you!  run!!!!!!

Answer 14

Im so sorry, I have night terrors and my husband usually wakes me up as I am hitting and kicking and punching him. I hope my actions never worsen. I am so sorry for what you have been through and my only advice would be to pray for peace and comfort when you get scared, and maybe have someone that you know you can call when you get really scared

Answer 15

wow the fear is def. understandable. I would suggest definitly talking about it with someone especially if you were close with either of them. that is a hard and emotional thing to take. As of the fear I would leave some lights on in the house, keep a flashlight with you, have a nightlight, mabye a phone by you even a bat or something if it makes you feel more comfortable. I know this sounds obsessive but do whatever makes you comfortable then slowly wean yourself off of these things once you feel safer. Also tell you parents (if you do still live with them) so they can help you get over your fear.  

Answer 16

Lots of childhood fears such as the fear of being alone and fear of the dark can stem into adult life. perhaps seeing a therapist and finding out what exactly scares you about the dark. Being scared of being alone must be amplified greatly for you. try finding a nice partner to keep you company, its a mental security thing.