How do i show more appreciation? ?

Question

Me and my mom have a pretty good relationship, but sometimes if she does something nice for me and I say thank you, she will say something like, "mmhmmm..." or "yeah, sure". And I think it might be because i don't really know how to show how much I actually appreciate what she does for me in how I say thank you. I don't know if anyone will know how to help me, but I just need to know how to show more apprecition in my thank yous. somehow.

Answer 1

Maybe write her a letter telling her how much you love her and appreciate the things that she does for you. It will mean more to her than any gift you can buy. Believe me, I know I'm a mother of three. Or maybe you can arrange a mother-daughter day. Take her out to lunch or dinner and maybe a movie or play.

Answer 2

your mother loves and adores you. don't put yourself down. she understands you are young w/out you acting young.

Answer 3

You could write a handwritten note of thank you and appreciation and leave it on her bathroom mirror or bedside with a flower.  

You could randomly give her cards when she is not doing something for for to show you are thinking of her.

You could tell her how much you appreciate her when it doesn't have to do with the moment something has been done for you.

Just picking up a couple flowers, or a small token of your appreciation like a book or magazine and giving it to her will show you are thinking of her.  It sounds like she is silently asking you to show her some token of love at your own free will.

Hope this helps.

Answer 4

I was like you and what I learned is that the best way to show appreciation is to comment on how whatever she did helped you. So instead of just saying "thank you", you should say, for example, "thank you for washing my clothes, that was really kind of you and it has given me some additional time to work on my project, I really appreciate it". That way, you are sincerely expressing your gratitude and not just repeating a cliché.

Also, keep in mind that she may not want to make a big fuss about what she had done for you and she doesn't want you to feel bad about the effort she had put in doing whatever when she replies this way… so she may not say much more anyway and you shouldn't let that bother you. Just make sure that you are comfortable with yourself regarding acknowledging her efforts.

Answer 5

Watch your tone when you talk to her. Sometimes we mean something, but it comes out differently. Watch out for sarcasm :)

Answer 6

hug her... say i love you more often... and smile when you say it and look at her

Answer 7

I certainly hope you read this, and if you do, feel free to email me back to let me know how it works out for you.

I appreciated my mother so much that when she became ill, I took over her care, moved her in with me and was with her for years until she passed away.  It was so important to me to know that she was cared for that I did whatever I could for her to make sure her life was easier.

So......  Judging from your question, I would think you are still a teenager and still living at home.  You haven't moved out into the world yet, and your mother is sometimes a real pain.  But when she's gone, it's a hurt you will never get over.

Actions speak louder than words.  Learn to become a responsible person who puts other's needs in front of your own (once in a while).

If you see there are dishes to be washed, just do it.  If you see that the laundry is needing to be done, just do it.  Does the house need to be dusted, or does the car need gas?  Or maybe just bring home dinner one night.  Little things make a difference.  

I would give all tomorrows up for just 1 hour with her again.

Good luck.

Answer 8

Try getting her a thoughtful gift. Don't get her something she doesn't need...find something so nice that when she looks at it, her heart will jump a couple of beats.

Make sure you attach a nice Thank You card from Hallmark and write a little message. The gift doesn't necessarily have to be expensive, as long as there's thought put into it, and more importantly, the card. Thank her for EVERYTHING, even the small things she does (like making lunch/laundry/dishes, or whatever else she does around the house for you)

Good luck!

Answer 9

Make her a nice cup of tea once in a while and maybe ask her how her day has been at the end of it? And tell her you love her in the morning before either of you leave out... Just because you feel you don't show enough, doesnt mean you dont mean it and im sure she knows you appreicate it.

Answer 10

Do something nice back to your mom. Just so thank you and then give her a hug. Then buy her something nice or just give a spa day or something like tht she'll really like it. My mom did.  

Answer 11

when she hasn't given you anything just say mom i appreciate how much you do for me really! i have a great mom and you don't get near the credit you deserve