How do i stand up to my family?

Question

Everytime I go out men compliment me ask me out, and people always call me beautiful my boyfriend loves me and my body . However, my family is always putting me down calling me fat, pointing out everytime i get a bump on my face or have a bad hair day, they have been doing it since I was a teenager and it really hurts, my grandmother especially criticizes everything, the last time we were at a family gathering my mother made a fat joke about me in front of everyone and ever since then i have had low self-esteem became depressed and had panic attacks, i wish i was stronger, but i think that really broke me that was the last straw, it was so hurtful and since then i have been on a series of unsuccessful diets. Does anyone have a similar problem? How do i confront my family and deal with my self-esteem

Answer 1

next time they even start to crack jokes, cut them off right away, it can be something like shutup! said very forcefully, or say i dont talk about how you look so don't talk about me, or you could point out something ugly about them you could mention something even if you dont really think its bad tell them it is bad. the point is dont let them get away with doing it, sometimes people dont know how bad they are acting, but it doesnt matter whether they know or not, just that it hurts you. always stand up for yourself, you dont deserve it, you dont have to put up with it, even if it means walking away at that very moment, no matter how embarrassing it mignt seem. i have recently had to do this with my own mom, i have to call her out on her sh*t or else she wont stop. you can do it, you just have to know that it is okay to speak up. the first answerer is right, i have recently learned this for myself.

Answer 2

Poor thing:(

No I cant say that I have ever been in this situation. Your 100% right to take a stand for yourself. Start by telling your family members any and all of them that is involved in the ridiculing that there words are damaging to your self esteem. Let them know that it will not be excepted by you, and that if it does not stop you will no longer be able to associate with them until they have changed there ways.

Good luck!

Answer 3

yes this always happens to me my parents have been doing it for ages and everyone else in my family, i ot bullied in school and iin work because of it. you need to look urself in the mirror and tell urself u are beautiful no matter what.

Answer 4

When someone like your idiot family goes offensive on you, you need to call them out on it... they are jealous, abusive and sick. You don't have to put up with it.

What do they think they are accomplishing with this? Do they think they will hang onto you longer by beating you down? Or do they think you are going to launch out of there faster?

I would say that the ideal thing would be to put that whole abusive lot in your rear-view window forever. Don't look back. Make a new family for yourself among your friends.

Consider using some anti-stress herbs like "Holy Basil" to help take the cloud off of you, and using the emotional freedom technique to yank that abuse out of your nervous system.

Go to www.emofree.com and download the FREE emotional freedom technique manual... instruction in the actual technique starts around page 20. It really works on releasing all sorts of stress, trauma, pain and whatever. The website also has a searchable database.

Answer 5

well don't feel bad. my grandad always says to me that i'm putting on a few pounds. but mostly when my dad says it i know he's joking. well i think he is lol. i think you should tell them how you feel and maybe they will realise what they've done

Answer 6

My sister always say that I look like an anorexit stick because I'm skinny. It hurts sometimes, like for example: Yesterday I was eating a brownie. She came up to me and said "Tryin to get some hips? Not happenin girl." It gets on my nerves sometimes but don't let them bring U down. that will only make U look weak and maybe ur own family is jealous of ur body since the boys love it. Tell them that they need 2 accept U the way U are.