How do i start enjoying activities by myself?

Question

i live in NYC and i don't really have friends -- so there's a lot of 'by myself' time. I feel SO insecure about it. i feel stupid going to the movies alone...or eating alone...or even walking alone (!) so stupid, in fact, i spend a LOT of time as a hermit in my apartment. i feel really sad about this. how can i get out more by myself and feel comfortable alone in activities???

Answer 1

Perhaps you could consider doing some volunteer work like reading at the library to children for a few hours a week; or to the elderly in a Care Home or Nursing Home. This way you will be with other people & part of a productive  activity which should provide self satisfaction and possibly new friends as well. Hope this gives a little food for thought.

Best wishes. UK

Answer 2

Dear Emma,

You enjoy activities by yourself, by doing activities you enjoy.  Things you enjoy doing with others, e.g., movies, dinner, may not be things you enjoy by yourself.

I have enjoyed ice skating by myself, and I prefer to go shopping by myself.  Also, when out and about, by yourself, you are more likely to have a chance encounter, with another person, out and about by themselves.  The anticipation, of a chance social encounter, with someone in your same situation, can be mood elevating.

I wish you the best,

Larry

Answer 3

You can sit alone in your apt. do you feel comfortable alone there? There's nothing stupid about shopping or eating or doing anything alone. Sometimes I like to do those things alone cuz I have the freedom to go where I want when I want; this can make it much more fun when I don't have to ask someone else what they think.