How do i start to trace my biological mother?

Question

I am adopted and im in the Uk, and want to trace my biological mother.

Where do i start?

Thanks.

Answer 1

You can ask your adoptive parents, but if that is not an option, there are TONS of websites that can help you. I have just started this process for myself. I went to http://adoption.about.com/cs/sear2/a/bec... and emailed a few of the sources there... I did this 3 weeks ago. Not only did I find out who and where my biological mother is, I got it FOR FREE. Some places will charge, like Omni Trace. But there are also private investigators that specialize in this that can do it for less.

Good luck!

Answer 2

You can start with your adoptive parents.  They might have some information that you will find helpful.

You can register with online adoption registries and try to locate your birth family.

You can also hire a private investigator & see what they can dig up.

Answer 3

i woul'd start w/ the adoption agency  thn yuor adoptive parents then u coul'd trace your biological parents

Answer 4

Where you born and adopted in the UK?  UK adoption records are open if born after 1976.  If before 1976 you need to go through counseling but can still have the records open.  I know that the laws changed in the last couple of years in the UK that only allows certain authorized agencies to open your records.  If you have a copy of your original birth certificate, searching is easier on your own by using this fee based web site.

www.findmypast.com

This site contains all of the birth, marriage and adoption

records for the UK.  Your birth record will be in here!

Here is a link for the GRO and some info on where to start.

http://www.gro.gov.uk/gro/content/adopti...

Good luck!

Answer 5

devin's Mum is right in her advice.  Firstly you need to have a counselling session with social services ( they probably still have your records but bear in mind that some have been destroyed - mine in a fire).  You can obtain a copy of your adoption certificate from your adoptive parents, but don't worry if you don't want to tell them.  the certificate isn't essentail.

I tried using web sites (free and subscription for 10 years and got nowhere).  I found my mother through accepting the services of a web angel.  Adoption sites are full of them if you know where to look.  It took her 13 hours!!!!  I'm now in touch with my mum.  

I know what you are facing and what you must be feeling and I will think of you.  If you want more info ( would take me pages on here ), them mail me on [e-mail] and I can tell you more detail.x

P.S. will check my email in an hour so I can chat to you 2nite if you'd like.

Answer 6

Go to your doctor and ask if there is anything that can be done. Like a DNA test. My girlfriend wanted to trace her biological father, and this is what she done.

Answer 7

start by asking your adoptive parents then if you are still not happy ring your local social services and ask there you could also try your local newspaper and internet to see if you can get anywhere but social services should have records and so should your local births deaths and marriages officer if its only your birth cert thats a start cause a name and area is really helpfull as then it narrows donw your search but askyour adoptive family lots of questions dont be scared to ask they have being anticipating this day for a while and wont be hurt and upset that you want to find out bout your natural parents if anything they should support you and guide you because they love you and your happiness is paramount and also you are extra special to them.

just remember to keep an open mind if you find your mother as some people find their natural parents and it does not go swimingley so try to be cautious as its going to be an anxious but exciting time and i do hope it all works out

good luck

Answer 8

I would ask your adoptive parents, if you don't want them to know, try social services, they will have details of your adoption.  Or if you know where you were bron you should be able to get info from your birth certificate, so maybe try the local council where you were born, or even your local council where youn are now if it is different, it can't hurt to try them.  But I know for defo social services will have details of your adoption, but only what was revealed to them in the first place.

The very best of luck, your a very brave person x

Answer 9

I would say start with your adoptive parents, they might have some information for you. If they are not much help, go the the agency that was used for your adoption.

Good luck, I hope you are able to find her.

God bless!