How do i stay happy and move forward positively?

Question

Hey you guys. I am one of those women that refuses to go through life with a chip on her shoulder.I know people say you have to kiss a few frogs before you meet your Prince Charming, but i'm tired of these characters that appear to be nice on the surface and are really just wasting my time. The guy i was getting to know, was supposed to take me to the cinema before he leaves for two weeks for his sisters wedding, the b*****d couldn't even do that. He hasn't even bothered to call, to say sorry i cant make it. Ever since i confronted him about being so cold after s*x, i get less phone calls, he has the audacity to even get nervous about me asking questions about his family members.He was the one that kept telling me i'd meet them, i never even asked. I finally challenge him and i'm all okay let's go to the cinema, lets go out, lets do something, after he's brought it up twice but both times he was too exhausted to go after work. People say i can be petty and cut guys off in a heart beat, that's true, but are these not the characters you cut off cuz their blaitantly wasting your time? I do it because i get offended at these people having the nerve to think i'm somehow trying to force my way into their lives. But lately even i'm gettin tired of cutting people out, it's just that i just think where do they fit into my life, where do i fit into theirs. I get paranoid, and i get scared of getting hurt. How doi stay happy and move forward positively.I just want to be happy.When was that a crime?

Answer 1

It's not a crime to want to be happy, but at the same time you have to allow yourself the chance to get there.  If it means taking a chance on someone, even giving them the benefit of the doubt then so be it.  As It is not fair to judge someone on the things that have gone wrong in the past.

This guy may or may not be right for, only you know the answer to that, no one on answers can realistically tell you that.  The best advice I can give, coming from someone who has consistently made bad decisions in the past, is clear your head.  Distance yourself from the past and try to honestly believe that you can be successful in a relationship, without someone automatically having to be an a..hole just for being human.  Sometimes things can be changed or have a logical explanation and it is best to look for that rather than automatically assuming a person is jerking you around.

Good luck, you will get there!

Answer 2

YOU CUT THAT GUY OFF FOR GOOD REASON, HE SHOULD'NT LIE SO MUCH NO ONE HAS TIME FOR THAT c**p!! TRY SURROUNDING YOURSELF AROUND POSITIVE PEOPLE, AND REMEMBER THAT IN LIFE THERE ARE GOING TO BE UPS AND DOWNS AND YOU JUST HAVE TO GET BACK UP AND WALK WITH YOUR HEAD HELD HIGH. I WISH YOU THE BET OF LUCK WITH YOUR RELATIONSHIP BUT WHATEVER YOU DON'T LOWER YOUR STANDARDS FOR ANYONE!!