How do i stop a co-worker coming onto me?

Question

Ive recently moved into a new job after finishing college and "thought" i had a dream job, ok, the pay is not great, but, the conditions and work are... Recently ive been paired up with a more experienced worker (female) who started off fine, showing me the ropes and all, but in the last few weeks she has started dropping hints of a sexual manner, asking questions about who im dating etc, kindof uncomfortable stuff.. as shes senior to me and i respect that, but how can i let her know in a nice way that im not ok with the enuendos?

Answer 1

Tell her about some made up guy you have your eye on.

Answer 2

The same way as most things should be handled...head-on. Just tell her that youre flattered but not interested.

Answer 3

Quit...and tell HR why.

She did start groping...didn't she?

Answer 4

Make it clear that you do not discuss your private life at work.  What you do on your own is no business of this person.

Answer 5

Just tell her in a friendly but assertive way with a smile.. that you like working here but that these are very private questions which you prefer to keep private...  That this has nothing to do with your job.. that you are quite fine with talking about casual things but you don't want to share your private life with everybody..  you are open for some jokes and that you have a sense of humor but that some questions are of a very private nature.. and it makes you uncomfortable to be interrogated... that she can however ask you anytime about any job related question.. or a casual question...She needs to be told where the boundaries are... maybe it's ok for her to do this.. I think she is a nosey person in general who wants to do office gossip.. and then she will  tell you about someone else's private life and tell them about yours.. you are right not to get involved with that..  that is tactless. it's fine to have a sense of humor and share a laugh at work but not to become too close.. and to squeeze private information out of a co-worker..I don't believe she is personally interested in you.. just gossippy and nosey.. but she has no right to ask private questions.. And if she really appears to have a personal interest in you then tell her you have a partner and you are not interested to please stick to work related issues... xx

Answer 6

Let some farts and burp a little and she will stop.

Answer 7

The next time she makes a joke, say "what do you mean"? she will either stammer thru an explination or drop it. Keep doing that until she takes a hint.

Answer 8

Tell it to her straight that you don't want anything more than a professional relationship.  Worst that can happen is that she'll get embarrassed and avoid you.  You don't deserve and BS...tell her off.

Answer 9

Well tell her that you would like to keep your private life out of the office. Explain to her in a nice way that  from a bissness standpoint you do not feel comfortable talking about those things . Be confident when you tell her .

Answer 10

Its better to stop her here only .....

Straighly tell her that u r not intrested in these types of talks .........

Otherwise she will keep talking and a stage will come when the situation will become unbearable and at last u will have to quit ur job....

So its better to handle this situation as soon as possible........

Answer 11

As someone who is in an HR function, I see this situation as more than just a matter of dealing with an uncomfortable situation - it can also have serious organisational consequences. You should ensure that you leave this colleague in no doubt as to your intentions. The first thing is (unfortunately) to cover your back. Go to your immediate manager and ensure that she/he is aware of your concerns. This is not 'dobbing' - it's documenting a timeline of what is going on so that a sexual harrassment claim (if it comes to it) will have the proper foundation.

The next time she asks you a question that you feel is not appropriate, tell her directly that you are uncomfortable discussing those topics and feel that it is not something that should be shared in a work context.

This may seem very 'full on', but it is really vitally important not to let things progress any further than you need to. Document everything that occurs with regard to this situation and ensure that your manager is kept appraised of developments

Answer 12

say : say man this isnt right i dont like you like that and that behavior is inappropriate in the office