How do i stop careing so much about what oher people think of me?

Question

i care way to much about what other people think of me it keeps me from being myself and haveing fun! i feel like they are staring at me and jugding me which is probably rediculous. but i used to have friends that they had nothing better to do then gossup and talk badly about other people they made fun of a deff girl!! it left me haveing no confadence at all because i was so scared of what they thought of me and if they were going to talk badly about me too and now i think everyones like that, im so scared to be myself and just live life! please help me what should i do?

Answer 1

I have the same issue. I've learned that you have to ignore the jeers and comments that people may or may not be saying about you. I understand how it can completly trash any confidence that you had about yourself when you hear your friends doing it or someone you work with. You must realize that people are going to be judgemental. It's in their nature, sadly enough. At some point, you just have to let go and stop caring what they may think. Figure out who you truly are and then, only you can judge yourself. What would it matter then if someone said something that was untrue about you? You know the real you and so do your friends. Most people make fun of others to regain energy that they have lost. It makes them feel better to pick a target that doesn't know they are being targeted. Most people wouldn't dare say something to someones face just because they are struck with fear. So what if someone doesn't like your hair, your clothes, your size, as long as you're happy...that's all that matters and I mean that. Don't let other people influence your happiness.

Answer 2

Well you've taken the first step, which would be talking about it on the internet. People here don't know anything about the real you, and we also have no right to judge you. So you could try going to a forum or a chat room and just being yourself, you'll pretty much make friends just about anywhere you go.

Have a good time, chat with people who share your likes and are more like you, and it could give you some confidence for the offline chats.

Answer 3

heyyy girl. i used to be that way too but look, if your true to yourself thats all that matters. if people dont like you for the way you are then s***w them! obviosly their not good freinds! good luck and just try being yourself for a day in front of people im sure they will like you. good luck!

Answer 4

people who judge others and make fun of people hate themselves...so look at it like this. they are just taking it out on you and others. they have issues them selves to work out. be you be yourself. some will hate you others will love you. thats just what lifes about.