How do i stop my ex husband seein my daughter !!?

Question

iv been divorced for nearly 3 years as he used to beat me and mentally abuse me , we had a daughter together who is nearly 4, the ex has only seen her bout 5 times since the divorce and he never bothers with her when he is with her but the last time he was down to see her he was really nasty with me so now iv told him he cant see her as it was upsetting for her and me plus she doesnt really know who he is . please someone give me some good advice

Answer 1

i think that you definitely need to talk to a lawyer, but first you need to weigh things and ask yourself this questions. are you doing this because he used to abuse you? or do you really think that his behavior affects your daughter? if the latest is the case go ahead get an attorney and keep him away from your daughter

Answer 2

First off, you picked this clown to father your child, so what does that say about the quality of person YOU are. Also, it doesn't matter how you and the ex are getting along, HE is your child's father, you can never change that. He should be able to see his daughter rather he is getting along with you or not, rather he's current or not on his child support, rather he's a nice guy or the clown you describe. YOU PICKED HIM by the way, you must be a real catch yourself.

Answer 3

Sorry about your marraige...but you cant keep her away or use your daughter as some sort of revenge...it is not fair to her...she sees him as her daddy and she loves him unconditionally...my parents bothed abused me as a child but I remember how much I loved them and how happy I was to see them. I was taken away as a kid and put into a home...but everyime I saw my mom and dad...my eyes lit up. Dont take this out on your daughter...keeping ehr away from him will only make her resent you in the future...now if he is an unfit fahter...he should at least get supervised visitation.....but you cant keep him completely away.....i know he hurt you...and I am sorry about that....but if he is a bad dad too...then at least let him get supervised visits...you dont want your daughter grwing up knowing that you kept her away from her dad

Answer 4

What is the custody agreement?

Need to alter the custody agreement to you soul custody with him supervised visits only. An attorney to see if you can file mandatory anger management and hearing for any alterations etc.

Is he paying child support?

When you filed for divorce, what was the reason you placed?

Answer 5

Get a lawyer and do it legally.  

Answer 6

I hear where your coming from, he's rude, and downright nasty, I would definitly tell him to Stop it, this is the reason why your not together now and your not about to take it when your not together, Specifically around your child.hmmm? Let me see if I get this right. You don't want him to see HIS DAUGHTER because he  doesn't treat you pleasantly?

But

It sounds to me like your using your daughter?

Also, you say "plus she doesnt really know who he is"

If you don't let him see her  how is she ever supposed to get to know him?

Isn't this child also his child? Don't you think a man has a right to get to know his own child even if he no longer gets along with the mother?

Just sounds to me like this is all about YOU ?

If I were you, I'd definitly put is ragged butt in check, but I wouldn't use the child as a shield

If he wants to be respected as a father, he'd better learn how to respect you as a mother !

  

Answer 7

Unless he goes through the trouble of getting a visitation order, you're under no obligation to let him see her.  If he does get an order, file for child support (if not, leave the matter be).  Tell him you'll drop the child support order if he leaves you both alone.  This usually does the trick.  Some men will sell their kids for a very low price.

In the meantime, don't pick up his calls and don't communicate with him in any way.  Men like this kill their families.

Answer 8

Unfortunately you Can't stop him from seeing his child unless he was physically abusive to her, then that should of been reported and investigated. You need to remember that no matter what - at one time this man was someone that you wanted- just because you don't want him no more doesn't mean your child should be the bearer of Your mistakes. Totally unfair. Legally you can't deny visitation unless her life is in danger. If he is willing to be a father- let him.

It sounds to me like each of you are using your child as a shield. My advise- fight your own battles- leave the child out of this- you think she doesnt know anything because she's young and boy are you mistaken- they absord everything like sponges! Be the role- model, show her how to act like a lady even when the devil himself shows up at your door!

Answer 9

you need to obtain a lawyer and prove he isn't fit and that he is a danger to your child!  

Answer 10

HONEY,,,START RECORDING HIM ANYTIME HE CALLS,,AND U CAN ASK A LAWYER WHAT HE THINKS,,THEY GIVE FREE ADVISE HOPEING TO GET YOUR CASE....AND,JUST DONT LET THE PIG,,,SEE HER,,,,IF HE HAS NO MONEY TO TAKE YOU TO COURT,,,HE CANT DO NOTHING....GOOD LUCK,,,,PEACE