How do i stop myself throttling this woman?

Question

my daughters fourth grade teacher hit her across the hand yesterday with a wooden pole.my daughters hand is briused,swollen,and painful to move.school is closed for two days,so i cant get in till sunday,my dilemma is i am so furious i am worried i may do this woman physical harm,any advice on handling this in a calm,manner,whilst giving vent to my rage in a controlled manner?

Answer 1

Wow, I can see why it would be so difficult to not want to go and hit this woman back! Try to calm down and just think, if you harm the woman - you will be up for assault. Do all that you can to avoid harming her, even if that means keeping your daughter at home and just ringing the school, so that you won't have to see her face to face.

If you feel you are too angry, I would ring the principal from home and tell him/ her how you feel about the way that your daughter was treated. Tell him that you do not want your child to be left in this teachers care again, and that you are going to take matters further. Hopefully, the principal will be smart enough to suspend this teacher immediately until matters are sorted.

Answer 2

You should actually try to get the teacher's side of the story. I know it may be hard, but just try to calm down while talking to the teacher. The teacher may have miscalculated or something, made a mistake, but it is always better to talk first. After the talk, if things still arent resolved, you can report her to the relevant authorities.

Answer 3

Well, first of all, believe it or not,you are LUCKY that school is out for 2 days.  You will have time to cool down and act rationally, rather than reflexively.  You must take photos of the injured hand, and file a complaint with the Department of Education for your region. Make it known that you may press police charges.  I am sure that this is a state reportable violation of the teacher's licensure.

As for venting your rage, I would tell any sympathetic ear, verbalizing is very cathartic of anger.

Answer 4

take photos, go to the doctor, get it documented. The you don't even talk to the teacher. go staraight to the principal. I would not be letting my child back in that class

Answer 5

you shouldnt handle this in a calm manner.she hit your kid.im not saying you should slay her,but she needs to be dealt with.wish i had some really great advice,but i dont,g/l

Answer 6

Where are you where there is school on Sunday?

You need to beat the breaks off of that woman!



Take up a collection for bail money now.

Do not be calm, why would you be, she hit your child, if there is never another reason in your life to get ballistic, this is the time.

This was no accident, she struck your child. Get furious, go early before school takes in when she first gets there, storm through that office, bring pictures of your child's hand, get the principal, and find that woman, and demand she be fired right now, thatn can find a substitute, and if you start swinging, you're in the right, I don't care.

Calm is out the d**n question!

I doubt you would even get into trouble for that, that woman is so fired!

Answer 7

CALM!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

ARE YOU JOKING

ID FUKING KILL HER

GRAB A BASEBALL BAT GO TO THE SCHOOL AN BEAT HER TO FUKING DEATH

NO JOKE

Answer 8

Yes, you need to report her.  As a social worker, I am a mandated reporter.  Hitting a child out of love or discipline is one thing - but it should NEVER leave a mark.  In my personal opinion it should never be done period.

This teacher is in a position of trust and authority.  What message is she sending to these children?  It's ok to hit.  I'm surprised you are asking for advice to handle this in a controlled, calm manner.  You have every reason to NOT be calm right now.

If you choose to wait it out till Monday, which I do not advise, I would take pictures now before the bruises fade.

I'm sorry your daughter had to go through this -I'm sure you've done this, but remind her that no one ever has a right to touch her, and nothing she ever does would ever warrant someone hitting her.

I'm sorry you are going through this as well.  You are getting good feedback here.  Good luck to you.

Answer 9

take pictures of your daughters hand.

DO NOT talk to the teacher!!!  she will justify her actions.

Talk to the superintendent, the principal.. anyone above her.

Take your daughter to the hospital and make sure nothing is broken, they should ask what happened and may file a police report. Let the school know you are planning on going to the police also. Let them know that you will also go to the local newspaper.

Simply say "I have pictures of my daughters hand, I have talked to others who seen Mrs. (bully teachers name here) hit my daughter. I took her to the hopsital, and police.I have not made it to the newspaper .. YET. My daughter will not be back in her class. What do you plan on doing with this woman? (if they justify her actions.. tell them you will let every other parent know what she has done, you will file charges on the school too).'

Take pictures to the school board, with statements from the other kids who seen it happen

dont let them get the best of you and make sure that you follow thru with everything you say.

first of all give your daughter big hugs and tell her she does not have to go back to that womans classroom. And take her to the drs. for an xray, send the teacher the bill..  make sure the poor little hand is going to be ok.

After getting her classroom changed, make sure her new teacher knows that touching your child is unacceptable, if there is a problem with her than they can call you.

Dont rest until somethign is done with her.

Answer 10

report her to the principal first, as well as the district office in your schooling region. if they arnt doing anything about it go to the police or even get a lawyer and sue her **** for everything shes worth!!!

Answer 11

Sunday call the school and call the police. This is child abuse and is not tolerated. This teacher should not be allowed to teach anymore and should get her license revoked. I wouldn't go all out and cause harm to her because that will only get you in trouble and worsen your problems but make it very VERY clear that your upset about this and the school needs to do something about it. Even go to your local tv stations to make it known that she abuses children if the school refuses to do anything....If no one does anything about it (school,police) get a lawyer and sue the sh*t out of her!!!

Answer 12

I'll help you, lets go and get her!

no, just call the school, or maybe even go to the school whenever you can.

Answer 13

Sue her f*cking a*s, and remember, 7 is on your side.

Look at it this way: If you remain calm, she'll lose her job, which is almost as good as any beating you can give  her.

How dare that woman lay a finger on your child. Know that you are the parent and you have to approach this woman and the situation in a reasonable way. Ohh, and there will be h**l to pay for that b*tch - how the h**l did she even get a liscense to teach, that abusing a*s!

Answer 14

first  thing take a picture of your childs hand as proof  then go to the principal about this. If he doesnt do anything about it Go to the cops

Answer 15

I would speak to the head master about it.. if nothing is done take it to the education department and also the police.. that's child abuse she's there to make your child feel safe not physically abuse her.

NO CHILD DESERVES TO BE SMACKED, ESPECIALLY BY AN OUTSIDER.

Answer 16

This horrible teacher should be removed from school, she has no right whatsoever to hit her students.  I would go to the principle and complain and make sure she doesn't teach again. Your daughter only dropped pencil sharpener i mean this teacher is crazy.

Answer 17

instead of starting a physical fight go in to see the Principal and tell him your side of the story

Answer 18

that sounds like assualt

go to the police  and get them to take photographs of your daughters hand before the bruises and swellings go down

there are laws against teachers using excessive force against children

Answer 19

Without doubt report this awful woman, to the Principal and to the authorities.  Children should most certainly not be treated this way.

Answer 20

Since you are waiting to talk to the school, this is incredibly hard to prove even with the pictures and the 4th grade eye witnesses. I don't understand why you didn't call the principal as soon as you found out about what happened. Everyone I know at our school welcomes calls from parents whether its during school hours or not.

You do definitely need to stay calm about this. The more upset you seem to them, the less credible you may seem as well. Talk to the principal, and most likely they will want to bring the teacher in to meet with you as well so that they do have a chance to defend themselves.

This must be an older teacher....I haven't seen or heard of a teacher doing that here since I was in Jr high in the early 90s~~one kid in my math class wasn't listening and he got cracked HARD across the hand with a wooden yard stick. Major red knuckles, tears in his eyes etc. I will tell you that he NEVER acted off in that class again, and no one else did either. His parents had no issues with it and the teacher was NOT punished for doing this.

As a mom, if either of my girls came home like this, I would be on the phone with the principal & the superintendant ASAP, and there would be a meeting with me, my husband, the child in question, the teacher, the principal, etc.

Answer 21

!!!! I would do her harm too if she ever touched my kid! Definitely report her to the superintendent, the police .. whoever u can!

Answer 22

Try and stay calm and report her to the school authorities. I would try to avoid contact with the teacher yourself as things might be said that wouldn't help your case. There are systems in place for this kind of stuff, so don't take it into your own hands.

Do make sure you've got all the facts straight: it's likely she could be fired or even have criminal charges brought against her – if there's been a mistake it could ruin her life.

Answer 23

If this was me I would load my child up and take her to the er and get an xray and then my next step would be to the police station where I would file charges for abuse.  NO ONE would get by with hitting my child in anyway that left a bruise on them and this is a woman that is paid by you to teach your child.  I would not confront her at all I would let the authorities handle it and then after they did I would give the school board one chance to explain and convince me why I shouldnt sue the pants off of them.

Answer 24

report her to the school and authorities!!!!

Answer 25

Why did you not ring the school the moment your daughter came home? I would have, even if my daughter had not told me who caused the injury. Or was it in fact an accident but your daughter is seeing a chance to get her teacher into trouble?

More going on here than you're saying, I suspect. You need to be very sure that you know the truth before you do anything to anyone.