How do i talk to my mom about depression that im going through =( .... i need help...?

Question

hi, im realy sad abt this thing i cant say...its just regular teen ager things.... and my mom knows about it..and she just says stuff mothers say... but i really wanna talk to her about this ****... i dont know how to talk to her, shes a great mom, but i just dont know...

i dont wanna tell her coz i just start crying and its realy ebarassing... (sp?)

my parents are always askin why im so quiet these days.. am i going through depression?? i just dont wanna talk to anyone and wanna CRY ALL THE TIME...

but im not EMO!!!

idont know... help me

Answer 1

Ok, I know a million and one people who have that, I mean almost everyone goes through that, even if they say they don't...I know exactly what you mean..and I had the same thing, like my mom was great but I didn't want to seem weird by crying to her about my problems, so one night I just told her everything, well a big part of everything, and the next day I felt so releaved, like seriously, I mean just get it over with...Or tell someone cuz if you don't it will just build up in you and you will just explode...lol. So yeah, if you need to talk then you can IM me, but yeah, it might be better for you to just tell your mom, or whoever...

Good Luck :)

Answer 2

Just say "Mum can we have a private chat?" and go somewhere quiet or your room and shut the door and let it all out. Your mum is there to help u no matter how embarrased u feel. She will hug u and make u feel all better. Don't be embarrased, she is ur mum :)

Answer 3

Visit your school counselor, with a printout of the depression quiz result, via section 1, or 2, in ezy build, below. Ask yourself: "Why do I feel depressed, and when did I first start to feel this way: can I associate this with any recent change in my life?" (if so, it is probably situational depression: counselling, such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is indicated). Or, was it a more gradual thing, with no apparent cause? (nutritional deficiencies, hypothyroidism, environmental toxicity, or reactions to some medications, etc., becomes more likely as the cause).

Antidepressants work quicker than the following; 2 - 6 weeks, but you may have to adjust dosage, or types, whereas St. John's wort is effective for most people, tolerance doesn't develop, and the few side effects don't occur often, and even then are normally not severe.

It doesn't cause sleeping problems, or weight change, but usually takes at least 2, and generally 4 - 6 weeks to become effective. A recent, independent German double blind study showed it to be as effective as Sertraline (marketed in the USA as Zoloft: a commonly prescribed antidepressant) in cases of major depression, with far fewer side effects, and those were generally better tolerated, with a lower rate of discontinuation. Unlike antidepressants, where sexual dysfunction is a common side effect, it happens much more rarely with St. John's wort (I have noticed no effect in this area).

Remember back to a time when life was full of promise, or a day when you felt particularly good, or possibly excited from a good result. Emotional states are associated with memories, and if it isn't major depression, this method can help.

A multidimensional approach to treating depression without medication follows. All except for no. (7.) are safe to use with medication, but not St. John's wort, because of interactions, and it's sensible to check out anything else first with your doctor.

(1.) Take 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily: (certified free of mercury) it is best if consumed with an antioxidant, such as an orange, or grapefruit, or their FRESHLY SQUEEZED juice. If vitamin E is added, it should be certified as being 100% from natural sources, or it may be synthetic: avoid it. Also take a vitamin B complex which is certified as being 100% of natural origin; a deficiency in vitamin B9 (folic acid, or folate) is known to cause depression. Around 30% - 40% of depressed people have low vitamin B12 levels. Depressed females using the contraceptive pill may benefit from vitamin B6 supplements. ~~~ (2.) Work up slowly to at least 20 minutes minutes of exercise, daily, or 30 - 60 mns, 5 times weekly. Too much exercise can cause stress, which isn't wanted when dealing with depression. ~~~ (3.) Occupational therapy (keeping busy allows little time for unproductive introspection, and keeps mental activity out of less desirable areas of the brain).

(4.) Use daily, a relaxation method* and/or yoga*, and/or Tai Chi. ~~~ (5.) Initially, at least, some form of counselling, preferably either Cognitive Behavio(u)ral Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavio(u)ral Therapy. ~~~ (6.) Maintain a mood chart, and daily activities schedule. ~~~ (7.) As options, if desired, either a known, effective herbal remedy, such as St. John's wort, (the strength varies, but the supplier should be using a standardised hypericin content, so follow the directions) or supplements, such as SAMe, or Inositol (from vitamin and health food stores, some supermarkets, or mail order: view section 55).

If 5HTP is used to boost serotonin levels, (which are low in depressed people) it is best taken with a high carbohydrate, minimal protein meal, like pasta with tomato & basil, and avoid protein for 90 minutes, before, and after, to maximise the amount crossing the blood/brain barrier.

Also, 80% of people in the Western world have low magnesium levels, and these are known to cause depression & anxiety. Try the magnesium supplement types shown in http://www.real-depression-help.com/ Some of these will be available in pharmacies, or supermarkets. Low levels of calcium, and potassium can also cause depression. Have your blood tested, and correct any deficiencies, preferably through improved nutrition.

An improvement can be noticed in as little as a week, if a deficiency is the cause. Also, iodised salt is much preferable to regular salt (one of the treatments in books on depression is iodine drops). Try to imagine, as vividly as possible, a time in the not too distant future, when you have overcome this temporary setback, and things are much better. *View section 2, on the first 3 pages, and also pages R, C, I, and section 11, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris

Answer 4

if you are a teenager hormones can make you depressed, angry, etc. maybe talk to  your friends going thru similar stuff? it always helps to know you arent alone or the only one... your mum may not understand. as you say "and she just says stuff mothers say.." so, do you really need to hear that again?  

Answer 5

its normal at ur age ferreal im 15 and that happened to me for about a month..write a letter is good..

Answer 6

Don't worry you are just fine. We all as human beings go through things in life that we can handle with success. Take a Deep Breath and realize that your personality is just merely one that wants to kick back and chill. Tell your mom how you feel and let her know that you feel depressed and want some help. talk to other people about how you feel. Tell someone or as many people as you can because this creates an open book feeling. Get all that stuff off your chest. Be positive and optimistic about life. Trust me you will be fine live Strong.

Answer 7

why do so many people put IM NOT EMO! who cares? but anyways, just sit her down and talk to her. i find it easier to write a letter with whats going on, then give it to her or put it somewhere she'll find it. that way she comes to me and asks the questions, alot easier