How do i teach a three year old how to be mature enough for kindergarden?

Question

My little little little brother can go to kindergarden next year but the teachers at he's school say he is not mature enough but my mum said if he has to repeat preschool then she wants him to repeat kindy. when i teach him anything, he just plays and makes me angry that i need to spank him. what should i do with him? he doesn't even know how to speak english or numbers or alphabet because he's too naughty to learn.any ideas?oh please help

Answer 1

Why is the responsibility of teaching your little brother yours?  

Also, the teacher who said your brother is not 'mature' enough sounds as if he/she needs to be more mature - after all a three year old loves to play, it's only natural. We are only young once and shouldn't be spending our childhood being mature and being spanked.

Answer 2

well tell them that its going o be really fun and give examples like meeting new friends ande getting snack. :)

Answer 3

You can't teach maturity. It's something that happens. Spanking will not help him learn. At this age, learning comes from doing, from playing, so go for it. Let him just be 3, he'll grow up soon enough.

Answer 4

don;t say anythin don't look at him let him do what he wants  talk with him if he is to bad call nany 911 tell him he will blow up if he is not good or it will come.=)

Answer 5

HELLO Your little brother is 3. It is his job to be a child, to play and learn as he plays. He's doing just fine.

You need to leave him alone, go find some friends and stop worrying about a brother that shouldn't even be going to kindigarden until he's 6-7 years old. Children that wait do far better because their little brains have more time to build the proper foundation for thinking.

I suspect you are probably from an asian country where children are made to go to school young and memorize everything they know. This is a tradgedy. It is far better to learn how to THINK than to learn how to memorize from a book.

Answer 6

Give him the best gift...the gift of time. Let him start the next year. He doesn't sound too ready & then the situation will get worse. Not ready academically OR socially...you will both be miserable!! Please, from a K teacher....hold onto him, it will be best for us all  :)

Answer 7

Ummm let's see he's 3! You shouldn't spank him for not learning what you think he should know...that's let's see how to say this .. .child abuse!!!! He's not naughty he's a kid. Children learn things on different levels and he is probably not mature enough for kindergarten because boys mature slower than girls. Each child is different and if you expect him to learn everything right now then he will not want to learn at all. Children that young learn through play. You need to go to the library or search online for what children should be doing at what ages. Many many many 3 year olds DO NOT know their numbers or alphabet! Is English the primary language in your home? If not then how is he to learn it???

Answer 8

Your brother is much smarter than you think.  Play is the work of childhood.  He is working.  You don't try to 'teach' a 3 year old something, he learns by being with you and experiencing, listening, or doing.

He's already been to preschool, so you can see that it doesn't work.

Children need their mothers to learn, that is how they learn best.  Three year olds do not belong in school.  No way - that is very damaging.  He is not naughty, yikes!

Your mother should be spending many minutes of out every waking hour with him, talking to him, listening to him, reading to him over and over, building blocks with him, taking him for walks and teaching him about the world.  He doesn't belong in preschool and he certainly doesn't belong in K.

Get alphabet books - they are wonderful, funny, beautiful, scary, whatever you like.  As you lay on the floor reading the books, you talk about the pictures, point out the letters.  Over the years, he learns the letters.  Painlessly and with joy.  Point out letters when you're walking, pick up sticks that look like Ys and Fs and Ts.  Draw letters on the sidewalk.  

Don't quiz him and ask him to draw letters - you draw letters.  Write words.  Draw pictures to illustrate the words.  Show him your love of language and he will be hungry to share it.

If you keep giving him the message that he is naughty,  you ruin him.  

And stop spanking him.  To spank in the context of learning is so counterproductive it makes your question seem like it's a prank question.  COuld anyone really hit a child for not learning?  If so, get better informed immediately.  

P.S.  No kid ever got mature by being treated harshly and pushed to grow up before their time.  That cripples them - might make them act tough - but inside they are crushed, destroyed because when they were little they constantly got the message that they were no good.  Don't do that to your brother.

Answer 9

be patient.  try turning the learning into games.  figure out what his favorite games are and use those games as learning experiences.  

for instance:

if he likes to run sit up an obstacle course for him to follow with numbers 1-5

if he likes to jump sit up colors of construction paper and have him jump from color to color

you may want to do the "fun activities first" (reverse phsycology)

do not focus on the bad things your brother is doing, focus on the good things only.

use spanking as the last resort.  tell him what you are doing and how you are going to do it.  

when you talk to him get at eye level.

be consistant.  if you tell him that when we are playing our games we do not scream and he screams fet at his eye level and ask him if we are supposed to scream when we play the games.  if he starts kicking and screaming hold him down in a basket hold.  (his back to you with his hand wrapped around his body and you holding his hands,  tight enough to hender his movements, but not too tight.)  tell him when he stops kicking and screaming you will lit him go.  this may take a few minutes the first couple of times.  but if you do this every time he will know you mean business.

good luck!

Answer 10

1 never spank him, you can be arrested for child abuse and he will not want to learn anything from you

2 three  year olds are not mature any way

3 he may have a real problem like ADD or another kind of learning difference

4 say out of it what makes you qualified to teach him anything if you are abusing him by spanking him, it is illegal nobody is to "notty" to learn, I think you are just a bad teacher

Answer 11

how about being a little patient, and don't spazz out on him. a little kindness ain't gonna hurt your boy.

Answer 12

yes, work hard to be patient. repeat things that you want him to learn, don't hit him or get pissed. don't push him hes still kinda young for all this stuff. be nice and love him and he will learn alot from you.