How do i tell his mom?

Question

i really want to tell her she is going to be a grandma but i am respecting my fiances decision to "wait for the right time". i want to be creative in the way we tell her the problem is everything i have thought about doing he has shot down i am really frustrated

Answer 1

You should not tell his mother.  If he has said he will tell her when he's ready, then he will tell her when he's ready.  You're right, he probably is scared to tell her, so let him deal with it.  If she finds out another way and is hurt and angry, which she will be if she finds out from someone other than him, just let her know you tried to get him to tell her and he said he'd handle it.

Answer 2

give her a cake that says, "happy grandparents' day"

Answer 3

If a holiday is coming up like a birthday then you could get her a card from the baby. Or you could just write in a card to expect her first grandchild on this date.  I would wait for your fiance to be ready but soon you won't be able to hide it and she will be hurt that you didn't tell her sooner.

Answer 4

Just talk to him and see how he wants to tell her.

The best method I've found is to just sit everyone down and make the announcement. =)

You could both go over there and you wear one of the pregnant shirts (just do a search online - they have all kinds of cute ones! Some say "We're hungry!" or "Expecting" or say "Baby" with an arrow pointing to your belly). Or you could try to find an all ocassion card that's for grandmas and just write "Can't wait to meet you!" or something like that in it.

Answer 5

Let him tell his mother when he is ready.  Pretty soon he won't be able to hide the fact, so sooner or later she will know.  Why is he scared?  Are you both very young?  Maybe he knows she will be dissappointed that you didn't wait until you were married to have a baby.

Answer 6

well, its better to sit down with ur fiance. Tell him it is about time say later would be to late. Besides, his mother should be happy that she is going to become a grandmother and have grandchildren. tell him that both of u are creating a new life, and u need to tell right away. i hope this helps u and good luck!

Answer 7

Why don't you just let him tell her? He will do it. He has to. But either way, just spit it out. It doesn't have to be cutesy. In fact, it shouldn't be. That's lame. Just the news that you're pregnant will be plenty good enough.

Answer 8

Well i think u should wait for the right time.It is a sensitive issue and urs fiancee's mother might not react as ur expecting her to do.So think calmly and then decide.Dont forget that ur and ur baby's future happiness depends on it.Best of luk

Answer 9

Are you sure he is going to matty you?

Maybe he don't want to tell her because he is a mamas boy, and don't want her to think he would have a child out of wedlock.

Or he could be getting ready to dump you, and not let her know.

Answer 10

Since it's his mom I suggest you think of something cute together, or maybe when he feels like he is ready to tell her he will.  

Answer 11

He is scared. Leave it up to him. When me and my husband were getting married, we told our own parents on our own. Though they both thought it was too soon (excuse me? I was 26, he was 27).

PLUS: They are going to find out sooner or later anyways...If they ask why didn't you say something, just tell them you felt it was not your place to have that conversation with them. Since he is their child.

So take the pressure off of yourself. Now if they ask you, then don't lie! If he is scared, and they learn later from someone else, then that's on him! He needs to get over his own issues.

In marriage (since you're engaged), we learned quickly to just talk to our own parents whatever news we want to break to them.

Either way, you both will come to something that works for you. I made it my business to never get involved in a situation or conversation, or step in to tell HIS parents whats going on in OUR business. Thats up to him. If they find out on their own, they can come to my husband with the concern, not me!

Answer 12

Girl, Imma be honest with you, when it comes to men and pregnancy...they are straight up cowards (MOST of the time) If I were you, I'd tell her myself. I really would. I mean, I would absolutly LOVE to be the one to tell her shes gonne be a grandma!! If he gets upset about it, just tell him, you were "so excited you just couldnt put if off any longer!!" Dont let him shoot down any more of your hopes or dreams, or ANYTHING YOU wanna do, you'll never be happy like that. Its time to think about YOU for a change AND FROM NOW ON!! You take care of yourself!!

-Stormstarter1207-

    --Louisiana--

Answer 13

my first husband didnt want to tell his mom even though we were over there alot. so i respected that since it is his mom and all. we didnt actually discuss it til i was about 6 months. it really bothered me to not tell her but it was his decision and his reasoning not mine.

worked out fine. I say you respect his wishes. unless he has shot down you giving her a cute i love my granny bib go with something along those lines( when you tell her)

Answer 14

well maybe he doesnt know how his mom will take it... dont push him or he will just back away.. DONT tell his mom.. let him do it

Answer 15

pls tell in detail

Answer 16

well she will eventually know, and such things can't be kept a secret, and I don't recommend doing something he wouldn't approve of.. I hope you can convince him of telling her unless he doesn't want the baby and i don't think he doesn't want it so he should confront his mom and even if he's afraid of her reaction she'll eventually want to see her grandson and everything will be alright, but if you're getting married soon you can tell his mom after the marriage. I truly hope you'll do the right thing but please try to make the decision that both, you and your fiance agree on.

be wisely brave and good luck  

Answer 17

Just go tell her.  She is going to find out anyway.  

Answer 18

If you fiance needs a confidence boost to tell his own parents that the woman he is going to marry is pregnant, there is a problem.  I don't understand why he's waiting?  Are you not 3 months along yet?  If you have hit 3 months - he should tell her ASAP.  Otherwise, she is going to show resentment towards you and him because you waited so long.

Answer 19

give her a bib or something that says grandma's little cutie!

Answer 20

let him figure out how to tell his mom... obviously you both will have to tell her sooner or later... you dont want her figuring it out... she might get offended...

but your fiance knows her well enough to know how she will react... he might be testing the waters...

talk to him about it again.. and just ask him for a definite answer.