How do i tell me parents to grow up!?

Question

this is kind of long, i'm sorry, please bear with me! My parents have been divorced for almost eight years now, but still have to tolerate each other because of my little brother and sister... The way the custody works has changed from them both living with my dad, then my mom, and now they are split up. One lives with my dad and the other my mother. Both of my parents are very immature and horrible about handling the situation. They are always fighting about who has this kids this week and that and they are constantly at each others throats! Sometimes its like they use the kids to p**s each other off. These fights are ridiculous and they are hurting my little siblings and me~ I'm always thrown in the middle, i'll talk to each parent for the other about picking up the kids or where to meet, or witnessing who had them when, and i get yelled at. i am like the messenger. I have argued and tried to tell both of them that they are wrong and should fight to have the kids not give them away for the weekend. They should want to be around their children. My mother is remarried and me nor my father like him. I try to help my babysitting and giving them rides. my older sister tells me to just not answer my phone and the kids are my parents responsibility. I can't help it i don't want them growing up thinking nobody cares. I do and i want this to stop! How can i tell my parents how i feel without getting into an arguement? How can i help them get along? help!?

Thanks

Answer 1

I am so glad that your little brother and sister have you in their lives.  You are a good person and a loving sister.  I doubt that your parents are going to improve their behavior.  Face it, they are selfish people and they do not think of the welfare of their children.  Give up your role as messenger or peacemaker.  Refuse to let one parent complain about the other parent to you.  Continue to offer babysitting and giving rides to your little siblings.  That is about all you can do but it should preserve your sanity while not abandoning your little brother and sister.