How do i tell my Parents that me and my 18 yr old friend like each other?

Question

Ok, so im 14 and my 18 yr old friend and I like each other. I trust him, and he respects me. We're both christians and so are my parents. But i don't know how to tell my parents. I want my parents to trust him, so i won't afficially go out with him until my parents know and are "ok" with it. I know its legal to date him, as long as we don't have s*x, which we won't cause we're both waiting. But i need my parents to trust him and know that he'll look after me. I won't go behind my parents back...

Answer 1

If you trust your parents and you say they are Christians.   They trust that you won't do anything wrong like going further to have s*x.

Just have your parents meet the guy and maybe a week or two later then tell your parents that you like the guy.  

Since you seem to have really nice good parents.   I don't think you really need to like hide anything.   Just tell them that you like this boy.  

You have very good morals and just be honest with your parents.  You don't need to hide anything from them.   They haven't done anything wrong to deserve for you hiding stuff such as liking this guy.

Answer 2

just tell them they cant control your life and its ONLY 4 years apart and there are couples like 20 years apart in this world!!  

Answer 3

I agree!

Answer 4

You are showing a remarkable amount of maturity for your age, the best advice I can give you is to spend time in prayer.  Ask God if this relationship is what he wants for you and be open to his leading.  If you feel convicted that this person is right for you, speak to your parents about it making sure you pray about how to approach them.  It's important that your parent's trust be in you, not just this boy so if you take this to them with openess and honesty you will be able to work things out.

God Bless

Answer 5

You could always ask yor parents if he can come over after church on sunday, and have the after-church meal with you.  In the home emnvironment you show your maturity, and wisdom, by brining him to tlak with your parents with you.  You might even make part of the meal or all of it for you and your family.  When it comes time to clear off he table, you and your mom can do that while your guy has a chance to talk with dad quietly.  I wish you both well..  

Answer 6

set up lots of ocassions were your perents can meet him as your "friend"

once they know him well enough and trust him after them meeting so many times they should have no problem when you finally tell them how you really feel about him

good luck!

Answer 7

I honestly dont think that the relationship would work out in the long run. You are both in two different places in your life... Maybe if you were 17 or eighteen and he was 22 that I might feel differently. I would suggest waiting untill you are about to or close to graduating highschool. You do not even have a driver's license yet!

Just because this person is christian does not mean he is going to wait or that he is magically good. I have seen christian men use and abuse women. How long have you known this boy? You are fourteen... it could not have been very long.

Answer 8

you don't. its ridiculous. you don't understand what your getting into. and even though your saying your not going to have s*x. things change in the heat of touching and love with a older man, an experienced man with wantings and needs. He is probably after you for s*x. He knows your inexperienced and or a virgin and he is trying to take advantage of that factor and will do anything and everything to win the score into your panties. He'll say he loves you and what not. Dont be a fool.

Answer 9

i have a 14 year old daughter and there is no way that i would let her date someone that much older.  at 14 it is difficult to see the big picture at that age and way too many things could happen that would be unforeseen by her.  i have also been 14 and i remember what i felt like about those things.  i have also been 18 and dated guys that age.  Christian or not he is still human, and sin is a very tempting thing, no matter who you are.  best thing to do is to stick with boys around your own age.  if you are meant to be with him, God will bring him into your life when things are a lot more appropriate for the both of you.

Answer 10

I would be upfront and honest,with them .I had the same thing . My now hubby when I was 15 he was 19 and I had to be upfront with my parents. And now we are married 8 years later.

Good luck.just be honest....

Answer 11

you just telll them what you've written here..... I have a friend who i really like and he likes me, he is older then me but i trust him and he respects me. I want you to trust him too and to allow me to go out with him because i really want you to like him and i dont want to go behind your back like alot of other kids would have done. I know that he will look after me no matter what and i hope you will see that too.

If they say yes then invite him over for dinner if they arnt so sure then tell them that they should at least meet him first and then decide and organise a dinner.