How do i tell my boyfriend I'm pregnant?

Question

My boyfriend and i have been together 3 years, he's 28 and just got a job in his degree to be a financial adviser for a stock company...anyway he's not going to start making money for awhile, just moved to a different city and we want to buy a place there. however he's not going to be making money and i don't have a job there yet. So right now is not a good time for us to have a child, we had plans to wait 4 more years. Anyway, how do i tell him i am pregnant. I mean how do you tell someone that? Ugh, i need help! We have always talked about abortion, but i am not so sure i can do that. However, i don't want to bring a baby into this world if i can't even take care of myself. And adoption is out of the question for him, he couldn't live with himself knowing he had a kid out there. So what do i even do? How do i tell him? I am so confused.

Answer 1

Well, as i was told "you play, you pay". I was on Depo Provera for 3yrs and ended up pregnant, as well did a few friends. I was 17, I had been married for only a year, I dropped out of high school, no job, my husband had a part time job etc..

I told him about the baby and even though we couldn't afford it, we kept it. There is A LOT of help out there, offered by our governments, to help us keep our families together.

To tell him, I would wrap a positive pregnancy test up for him to unwrap. with a card that say's, I hope you like it, since it's non returnable!  :P

If he love's you, he wouldn't be mad, after all the baby is a part of you both.

I am now 29yrs old, two children now who are son 11 and daughter 7, I am also a full time student in College and you wouldn't beleive the scholarships us moms get.. Well, in another year, I will be graduating accounting with an AS degree. (btw the Gov helps with daycare also!)

Answer 2

Just get an abortion if you are not stable enough to take care of the baby. I'm so tired of the bullshit excuse "the condom broke." Get on birth control. The man just got a job and you had to get pregnant

  

Answer 3

Before you say no to adoption, read this:

It allows visits, so you can see your child.

Open adoption

Main article: Open adoption

Open, or fully disclosed, adoptions allow adoptive parents, and often the adopted child, to interact directly with biological kin. Communication may include letters, emails, telephone calls, or visits. Direct access to the birth parents and history has advantages of answering identity questions ("Who do I look like? Why was I placed?") and lessening fantasies. There are also disadvantages such as no clean break for assimilation into family and the potential for feelings of rejection if contact stops, or for playing families against each other.

Arrangements regarding contact are typically informal. Even in an open adoption, legal rights of guardianship are terminated, and the adoptive parents become the legal parents. In some jurisdictions, the birth and adoptive parents may enter into a binding agreement concerning visitation, exchange of information, or other interaction regarding the child;[65] however, informal agreements are much more common.

Another aspect of openness in adoption is access to unaltered birth certificates or other records. Such access is not universal. However, a few jurisdictions, do provide automatic rights to records. These include,

United Kingdom: At age 18, those adopted are automatically entitled to their birth certificates and may access their adoption records.[66]

Germany: German-born children are allowed full access to their birth and adoption records.[67] In many cases, biological family genealogical research is possible.

US: people adopted in Alabama, Alaska, Delaware, Kansas, New Hampshire, and Oregon can access their birth certificates.[66][68][69][70]

[edit] Semi-open adoption

In a semi-open adoption, the parents involved may meet one or several times and then have no more physical contact. Non-identifying letters and pictures may be exchanged directly or via a third party, such as an adoption agency, throughout the years.[71] The relationship may remain semi-open or may evolve into open or closed.

[edit] Closed adoption

Main article: Closed adoption

In some closed adoptions, non-identifying information is shared between the parties involved, such as medical history, up to the point of placement. After the adoption is legalized, no further information is shared between the parties involved.[72]

In other closed adoptions no information is shared between the parties involved. This may occur because of the law in the jurisdiction concerned, or court order, such as when a child is removed from the home by the state because of abuse or neglect. It may also occur because the parties involved do not want any contact.

Another trend in closed adoption concerns laws passed by some U.S. states that allow infants to be placed at any nearby hospital, fire department, or police station within 10 days after birth, with no questions asked. However, such laws have been criticized by adoptee advocacy organizations as being retrograde and dangerous.[73]

Answer 4

Personally, I would go with abortion. Me and my girlfriend are in a similar  situation, and i always think about what I should do if she gets pregnant. However, having a kid is the most wonderful thing a person can experience and if you do choose to have the baby, it will probably end up benefitting you in an awesome way. I know if I was your boyfriend, and I'm speaking for most guys, I would want to hear the news as soon as possible and it would probably be best, if when you tell him, you've already made your decision about having or aborting the baby. That way their won't be so much confusion in the beginning, and you guys would have a starting point.

Answer 5

just tell him i'm sure he be happy...

and besides you both are on the right age...

i've got a boyfriend and he love to have a baby with me..

but i disagree because we both don't have a job were still studying and were both not ready for that and i'm 19 i can't say it as the right age...

Answer 6

just tell him.. you holding in this information is only stressful to yourself. he may be excited.. sometimes things happen at inconvienent times but you have to deal with it and make the best of the situation.  tell him as soon as you can though.  he will want to know whats going on and be there for you.

Good luck and congratulations. babies are wonderful.

Answer 7

This is a serious issue.

You just have to be rather blunt about it...sit down and talk about it.

Go over your options together.

Don't abort it please. Its not his/her fault.

You should thought about safer s*x practices. The baby is his fault just as much as it is yours. So when you do tell him, don't act as though you feel bad about it.

Be confident, and it will go down more smoothly.