How do i tell my boyfriend that i really love him and want to stay with him?

Question

my boyfriend is confused and dosent know what to think. i am really worried and i usually talk to him and help him but i dont know what to say this time. i really need help i know its ment to be please help me thanks -emily

Answer 1

I know how you feel on the matter, about 3 weeks ago the guy I was seeing had alot of confusion about things and told me he needed space. At 1st I did not give it to him, then a few days later he got upset and took all the anger and confusion he had out on me and it was hurtful. So, for 2 weeks I did not call, text and if I saw him out I did not even look his way just went on about my life. It was hard to do it, but last week we were out at the same place and he came up to me and said his sorry's and opened up to me and told me everything that was on his mind and also told me on thing was no matter how much he felt like he needed space, he wanted more for me and him. We are not back together as of right now, but we talk everyday and see each other a few times a week. Taking baby steps back into things, we both have decided that we want more but there are alot of things going on we are both in the military and both leave in January him for a year me for 6 months then I will be going out of state for 2 years and yesterday he asked if when he got home from overseas as long as I waited for him to come to where I am. Needless to say hun sometimes it's not about what you say, it's about what you don't say. It's hard to do but if he cares and truley wants you in his life he will come around. It hurts a person more when you say nothing at all, and allows them to realize what they have. I am not saying that you should do that, but it's what I had to do and though he may not be with me, I did learn it hurt him and he told me he realized how much he needs me in his life and he did miss me more than he had missed anyone before. Just something to think about. Good luck, I do hope all works out for you just remember don't be pushy about things, it can just upset them I learned it the hard way and luckly I was lucky that my guy does love me and still wants me in his life.